Five Dangerous Things I Did – Enjoying Life #4

 

It’s no secret, today is #4 of our ‘Enjoying Life’ series!

 

Enjoying Life #4

 

Five Dangerous Things I Did as a Teenager that I Enjoyed 

Taking my small boat out alone after midnight for a rendezvous with 3 European women, 2 Swedish, 1 Finnish, who were anchored out on a boat in a nearby cove.  My buddies and I had met them earlier that day while water skiing.  Nobody really believed me when I told them what happened, but it did. Kids, if you are reading this, don’t do this.

Hitchhiking from Connecticut to Ohio during my freshman year of college with my roommate.  We promised the young couple who picked us up and who were eloping to Florida (or something like that) a joint or two if they took us all the way to the campus, which they did and we did.  We were two days late and didn’t think it all that important to tell anyone where we were. Our friends and family weren’t happy about that but we had fun.  Kids, if you are reading this, don’t do this.

Streaking (running naked, a fad in the 70s) across my college campus in the snow in the middle of the night and getting stuck behind a grove of trees with 3 friends when a performance let out at the local theatre and the cars exited on the road we had to cross to get back to the dorm. We were stuck for about 10 minutes and it was COLD! Kids, if you are reading this, don’t do this.

Taking the air conditioner out of my girlfriend’s bedroom window from the outside so I could sneak in and having to run like hell when I almost got caught by her father.  I guess I could trace my running career to that night if I really want to. Kids, if you are reading this, don’t do this.

Driving to Myrtle Beach, South Carolina for spring break with a friend.  Our parents were out of town and we didn’t think it necessary to tell them we were going. We meant to go to Florida but the car broke down in South Carolina so we spent our break in a Burger King parking lot near the beach. Luckily, we knew some girls who were staying in Myrtle Beach so we hung out with them for most of the week.  The car (an old Rambler my dad got for $200.00) was toast by the time we got home and had to be junked. Kids, if you are reading this, don’t do this.

What dangerous things did you do when you were a teenager?

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Drawing and remembrance by Marty Coleman

Quote by Frederich Nietzsche, 1844 – 1900, German writer and philosopher

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The secret of reaping the greatest enjoyment from life is to live dangerously

What is True Morality? – Enjoying Life #3

 

Here is the drawing I decide on to go with the quote from yesterday.

 

True Morality - Enjoying Life #3

 

Contest

Yesterday I posted this drawing with just the quote and asked people to give me their idea of an illustration for the quote.  There were some pretty good ideas. Many talked about a mother or father showing love for a child, or for an elderly parent.  Some talked about the idea of adoption.  Another mentioned the ‘pay it forward’ idea, which I found particularly intriguing.

But in the end none of them seemed to deal with what I thought was the key to the quote, which is about morality.  While I was reading and thinking about it I was struck with the very current and real American debate over same sex marriage.  It was the perfect example to me of an image that illustrates both the joy/enjoyment element of the quote and also confronts the perception of morality this issue makes many struggle with.

Some Questions:

  • What do you think of my choice?
  • What do you think of the definition of ‘true morality’ the quote gives?
  • How does same sex marriage come into play with your definition of morality (whether it is the same or different than the quote’s definition)?

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Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman

Quote by Nicolas Chamfort, 1741-1794, French Writer and Aphorist

 

Nicolas Chamfort

 

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To enjoy and give enjoyment without injury to yourself or others is true morality

You Decide the Drawing – Enjoying Life #2

 

WE HAVE A CONTEST PEOPLE!

Here is the quote, now you tell me what should be happening in the drawing to illustrate the quote. GO. The best idea (in my opinion) will be the one I draw.

 

Enjoying Life #2 - no drawing

 

I will give you credit for giving me the idea and I might even draw YOU on a napkin to celebrate your contribution!

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What To Do Between Birth and Death – Enjoying Life #1

 

I hope you enjoy day #1 of Enjoying Life!

 

enjoying Life 1

 

And hopefully as you grow, what gives you enjoyment is more and more about giving joy and love to others as well as getting it for yourself, right?

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Drawing and Commentary by Marty Coleman. This is the bathing suit version. There is a nude version as well, but it’s not uploaded anywhere as of yet.

Quote by George Santayana, 1863-1952, Spanish philosopher and writer

 

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There is no cure for birth and death save to enjoy the interval

The Enemies of Promise – Promises, Promises #5

 

And as I promised, here is the last in the ‘Promises, Promises’ series!

 

Promises of the Gods - Promises, Promises #5

 

Celebrity

What do many celebrities, whether local fame in a small town or international superstardom, have in common?  They burn out and fall from the stars in a flaming display of self-destruction.  Why is that?  Often times it seems to be promising expectations they can’t live up to.  It might be they actually aren’t as talented as everyone thought. It might be they have the talent but don’t put in the work to bring that talent to the level needed.  Maybe their talent was only developed in one small area and once used up, there is no where to go.

Success

There are of course stories of wildly successful people who were pushed early on to become something. Think of Serena Williams in tennis, or Tiger Woods in golf.  They both had parents who had a huge vision for them, and that vision came true.  Both became superstars well beyond the expectations.  And they both were touted as examples of how children with talent could be trained and molded successfully so they would be able to sustain themselves and prosper in their field

Failure

But no parent is perfect at child rearing. And now child is perfect either.  So far it looks like Serena has navigated successfully through her fame and fortune.  I hope that continues. But we all know that Tiger, while living up to athletic expectations, fell from orbit and self-destructed. He is to be admired for fighting back and not giving up.  He still is golfing, still winning and still a force to be reckoned with.  But the illusion of his exalted character and status in the world fell hard and has not recovered.  

High Up

A big part of the force of the explosion and the media clamor over it was due to the height from which he fell. It wasn’t the height of a parent’s hopes for a young child. It wasn’t the height of a young phenom exploding onto the professional scene. It was the height of someone on the verge of being declared the best golfer in history.   That is a long way to fall.  It was sad to watch the wreck happen in real time. It was made even worse by knowing he brought it on himself.  

Do you know someone, or perhaps even are that someone, who has lived that life? Not just in sports, but in any arena of endeavor.  What are the lessons you have learned about this as a result?

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Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman

Quote by Cyril Connelly, English author, 1903-1974

It is not an anomaly that Connelly is the author of this quote. He lived it.  Here is a passage from the Wikipedia entry about him.  

“Connolly followed this up (his novel ‘The Rock Pool’) with a book of non-fiction, Enemies of Promise (1938), the second half of which is autobiographical. In it he attempted to explain his failure to produce the literary masterpiece that he and others believed he should have been capable of writing.”

I used the title of his book as the title of this post, it was the obvious choice once I read that it was about his own promise issues.

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Those whom the gods would destroy, they first call promising