The new blogging community I am part of, Social Fabric, has put out it’s first online magazine, Live SoFab.
Check it out. I did, but not because it had the words ‘summer nudes’ and ‘monokini’ on the cover. Really.
By the way, if any of you are a millennial bloggers (in other words ages 18-25) Social Fabric would like to talk to you about joining their community of bloggers. Let me know and I will get you in contact with them, ok?
If you can believe your eyes and ears, it’s day #5 of ‘Women vs Men’ week!
‘Men fall in love with their eyes, women with their ears’
What think you of this idea? Is it true for you or those you know? Tell your Napkin Kin how so.
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Drawing and questions by Marty Coleman, who is hard of hearing and good of seeing.
Quote by Woodrow Wyatt, 1918-1997, British Politician
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As long as I am on a musical kick, here is a song from ‘My Fair Lady’ that exemplifies the frustration between the sexes, at least from a misogynist male perspective. ’Why Can’t A Woman Be More Like A Man?’ This one should get some of my red blooded female Napkin Kin going!
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I hope you didn’t forget…today is day #4 of ‘Women vs Men’ week!
If you have followed me a while you know I was married the first time for 20 years. The marriage started breaking down around year 18 but ironically that was also when we started REALLY talking to each other about the marriage, who we were, what we wanted, how we felt. It really was a life altering period for me that I now deeply appreciate. Among things that I learned or I improved were my ability (and willingness) to listen and communicate, feel empathy, think ahead about consequences, and not assume the surface is the reality. I am grateful for those lessons, as is my new wife, Linda (though she knows I still have a long way to go).
But there is another thing those years taught me first hand. Kathy and I were in the middle of a long discussion about our marriage when she said ’But you once said…’ and she then proceeded to say what it was I supposedly said. I didn’t remember saying it. I asked her when I said it. She said, ‘about 1991′. She was telling me this in about 1999, 8 years later. My response? ’uh…1991? really?’ She not only remembered that I had said whatever it was I said, but she remembered the year. Now if this was an isolated incident I would chalk it up and forget about it. But Kathy did it other times as well when we were going over things from our past (including once remembering something I said from the year 1983!). My wife now, Linda, has also brought up something I said years ago with frightening attention to detail.
Don’t get me wrong, I am not trying to get out of saying what I said. I wish I could remember things as well as Kathy or Linda. But I can’t, at least not yet. From my experience not many men can. I am sure some women can’t either, but I think overall they can remember a hell of a lot better than men do.
Remembering Concrete
But there is a problem with remembering so well and that is that one can easily get stuck with that one memory in your head, playing over and over, and it can blind you to subsequent events, words, deeds, that modify or change that thing that is in your head. So, while forgetting important things we say or do is not always a good thing, it can also allow new, more relevant and true things to come in, things that are who we are now, not who we used to be.
What think you about this?
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Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman, who does remember saying ‘I love you’ a lot to both my wives, no matter how far back it was.
Quote is anonymous
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Here is a great duet from the musical ‘Gigi’ that brings this point out perfectly. My father used to sing the trademark line, ‘ah yes, I remember it well.’ when he would forget something from the past. I do the same thing now. Not many get it when I do that, but I don’t care. It makes me smile.
Speaking of remembering AND forgetting…While I was writing this I was browsing YouTube and came across something I remember very distinctly. My college roommates and I were LA Dodger fans watching the 1977 World Series when this happened. Funny though, in my memory she was wearing short shorts. Ah yes, I remember it well.
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The climax of your day has arrived; it’s day 3 of ‘Women vs Men’ week!
Is this true? Can it be true of either gender? What’s your experience?
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Drawing and questions by Marty Coleman
Quote by Sharon Stone, American Actress, 1958- not dead yet
Sharon Stone – 2012
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If it’s Tuesday, then it’s day #2 of ‘Battle of the Sexes’ week!
Once again, I ask you, my Napkin Kin, is this statement true?
Why do we think about our potential spouses this way? Do we think it consciously, or no? What are your experiences with this?
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Drawing and questions by Marty Coleman, who has changed a lot after 20 + 6 years of marriage to two different women.
Quote supposedly by Albert Einstein, but I am dubious.
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