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Temptation and Decision Fatigue

I read a great article online about Decision Making in the New York Times Magazine this morning. It led me to today’s drawing and topic. I will link to the magazine at the bottom of the page.

temptation

It’s All Your Fault

If you only had more willpower. If you only learned to discipline yourself.  If you only weren’t so spoiled, gluttonous, slothful, lazy, indulgent, selfish, stupid, immature and short-sighted. If only you had more glucose.  WHAT? Glucose?

Well ok, it’s Your Brain’s Fault

Once again, science is making progress in understanding who we are, how we work and what we can do to improve.  There has been a number of studies in recent years that go under the heading of Decision Fatigue and Ego Depletion. What do those terms mean?  Decision fatigue is the phenomenon whereby each decision you make in a day diminishes your willpower and ability to make subsequent decisions.  Your brain acts like a muscle in the sense that it gets tired after so much exercise that it really can’t work that well anymore.  Ego Depletion is when your ability to retain your decision making skills at your ego’s normal level is diminished.  That is why we tend to make bad decisions (or can’t make one at all) in the afternoon or evening, after a long day of decision making.  But why is this? Well, research seems to be indicating that the reason is a depletion of glucose in the brain. Sugar basically.  it doesn’t stop the brain from working, it just stunts the decision making areas of the brain.  

Parole in the Afternoon

In a study of Israeli parole boards they found that being brought up for parole in the early morning, right after breakfast, the convict had a much better chance of recieving parole than a criminal with the same sentence for the same crime had if he came before the parole board late in the morning, before lunch, or late in the afternoon. In all these cases the difference was the board members inability to decide, not the individual merits of the cases. Why was that? Because they had already made so many decisions that the best, easiest decision was to make none at all.  Leave the decision for another day was the best choice in their decision fatigued mind. And what made their mind fatigued in this way? Lack of glucose.

The Dieting Catch 22

So, how does this apply to dieting? Dieting is all about will power, right? It’s all about deciding again and again and again, not to eat certain foods. What does that insistent decision making do? It depletes one’s ego, the person’s ability to make decisions in their best interest. So, what is needed to restore that ability to make the right choice in dieting? Eating is what is needed. What to eat? Sugar.  How is that for a catch 22?

1. In order not to eat, a dieter needs willpower.

2. In order to have willpower, a dieter needs to eat. *

Moral failure vs Brain Science

One of the best things about our paying attention to scientific discoveries is that it lessens judgment but increases our ability to change and grow.  It is the search for the truth that can help us, and the old, simplistic moral condemnation is ineffective (and alway have been) because it doesn’t help us understand and act on what the real truth is. And the real truth is that we must pay attention to our biology, our chemistry, our cultural and social behaviors and analyse them not with ignorant condemnation but with neutral and effective judgment.  

Judge Yes

Judgment of self is not condemnation of self. It is realizing that you are doing this one thing and, without condemning yourself, that can decide that you will change doing that one thing into doing another thing. The truth is you won’t be more effective (and more likely will be less effective) by dumping a truckload of guilt on yourself in the process.  It’s not an excuse and it’s not a license to do something bad. It is just a more effective and positive way to pursue the change you want to see in your life.

 

Do You Suffer From Decision Fatigue? – New York Times Magazine 8/17/11

Let me know what you think of this.

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Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman

Quote by Mae West

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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>Sex & Emotion

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Day #4 of Sex Week at The Napkin Dad Daily

Here is the issue about emotion in sex and love.  Men often have too little of it (emotion that is) and women often have too much of it.


For you women, actually it isn’t just that men have less of it than you do. It’s also that they don’t know they have it in the first place. They feel just a hint of something, but they don’t investigate it. It is left unformed and uninvestigated.  Men are often not even aware it WAS a feeling they had, and if they did realize it, they aren’t sure what that feeling represented. They don’t name it and categorize it.  


For you men, actually it isn’t that women just have more of it than you do.  It’s also that they investigate deeper into the emotions they do have. To them they are a mobius strip of never ending investigations.  And not just their emotions, but yours as well.  They figure you are exploring yours as deeply as they are their own and so they want to know what it is you are feeling.  They are working at defining what it is they felt and where it sits in relation to her other emotions and yours. When you aren’t able to say what it is your feel, it’s easy for them to think you either are hiding something or don’t feel anything.


That is why sex is often such a emotionally bonding experience for both men and women.  It isn’t primarily about words. It’s about motion and sensory experience and the emotions are created through those things.  Sex is good that way.


Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily


Quote by Mae West, 1893-1980, American playwright and actress.  Read her bio, she was an amazing woman well ahead of her time. Incredibly creative and ambitious.  I didn’t realize she wrote many of the plays and movies she starred in.

>Looked Over

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A circular dilemma: you want to be noticed, seen, known, paid attention to.
You do what you can to make that happen. Then you realize that the
‘you’ that got the attention made the rest of ‘you’ invisible. So, you try to
downplay the attention-getting part and you discover you are still mostly
invisible. You don’t like that so you go back to emphasizing the parts that
got looked over. Then you feel the rest of you is invisible again.
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>Whenever I am Caught

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Ok, for any of you that were born without humor DNA she is NOT talking about
REAL evil, like murder, abuse, addiction, etc. Good, got that out of the way.

But for the other ‘evils’, the fun and non-destructive ones, there is something to
be said for being open to new things, whether it is a new decadent chocolate
candy bar or a new idea for you and your partner to have fun with. In other
words, don’t get in a rut with your indulgences, branch out, have fun!

The quote is by Mae West, a movie star from the 1920s and 30s. Those of you
too young to know who she is, think of the biggest celebrity now and add a
very saucy, sexy, funny, witty and bold personality to that person, and you
would have Mae West. Oh, and add a very curvaceous figure as well.
She was the queen of one liners with outrageous sexual innuendo, and she
was very funny. Look her up some day, she will make you crack up.

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