Category Archives: beauty

A Big Nose

big noses

I Know Noses

In the past few months I have photographed a number of women who have all told me the same thing; they hate their nose because it is too big.  This isn’t new, I have been hearing it from women (never men) most of my art and photography career, which goes back over 35 years.  In not one of those situations did I look at their nose and think that.  Instead I thought their nose was just right for their face in balance, shape and size.  In other words, I loved their nose and thought it added to, not detracted from, their beauty.  

The French Knows Noses

If there is any place on earth that has refined taste, it’s France. This quote is a French proverb. It’s from the country of high sophistication and beautiful art, architecture, women, men, fashion, food and more.   If France can make a national statement about the beauty of the nose, then who are we to disagree, right?

That’s it. That is all I wanted to say. All you women out there who think your nose is too big, I think your nose is beautiful.

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Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman, who knows.

Quote is a French Proverb

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If you ever do get put down for your nose, memorize this monologue from Roxanne.

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Trivia question of the day

What animal has the most olfactory (smell) receptors?

Come back tomorrow for the answer.

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A Model Confession

Today we have a model image.

models

What does a model look like?

Did you know that most models don’t look like models?  Yes, they have certain base features that most models have; a certain figure proportion, a certain bone structure. But models don’t look like models.  They look like young women, and in most cases, average looking young women.  Models start looking like models when they prepare for a shoot.  The makeup artist, the hair stylist, the art director, the photographer, the photographer’s assistant, the editorial assistant, the advertising agency rep, the advertiser’s rep all play a part in creating the image you see in a magazine.  The model is in the mix, contributing, but it is not her you end up seeing.  It’s a photograph, an image, that you see.

Crush

I should know this since I am a photographer but I always forget and have to be reminded. That is because I have also been a fan and follower of a number of models and photographers for decades. I get seduced into the beautiful image just like anyone else.

In college I had my first major model crush.  It was the model, Lisa Taylor.  She was a well known model in the 70s and 80s. She was a favorite model for the fashion photographer Helmut Newton, whose work I loved.  She also happened to be in one of the all time iconic images from the 70s.

Lisa Taylor wearing Calvin Klein by Helmut Newton

Confession

I had a copy of this Harper’s Bazaar magazine with Ms. Taylor on the cover hidden under my mattress in college.

June, 1977

I had it hidden not because it was pornographic obviously but because it would have been even MORE embarrassing for my roommates to find it than if I had had a Playboy or other men’s magazine. This was because I had a major crush on a girl at school who I thought looked just like Taylor.  I thought they would know right away if they saw the magazine cover.  One day us guys, hard to believe I know, were actually cleaning our rooms and we all decided to flip our mattresses over as we had been taught growing up.  Well, you can guess what happened. They saw the magazine and had a really really big laugh at my expense. I turned bright red from embarrassment as you can imagine.  Just as I thought, they immediately saw the resemblance between the model on the cover and the girl I had a crush on. They didn’t threaten to expose me because they said everyone already knew I had a crush on her. Oops. So much for that secret.

Reality

The truth is the real woman I had a crush on wasn’t perfect like the photograph of Lisa. She didn’t think she was beautiful (and still doesn’t). She had issues with her father, she easily felt guilty about many things.  But she was also energetic, enthusiastic, funny and principled.  And it turns out she had a bit of a crush on me.  We always stayed platonic (well ok, we had one brief kiss) but we had a very emotional time of it during that year.  She ended up marrying a great guy (who she was dating during our crush).  We are still connected and good friends.  She is still herself, positive and negative.  But she is wiser, happier and more real inside and out than she ever was way back when.

Taylor Now

In 2009 Timothy Greenfield-Sanders did a project for Vogue Magazine.  He took photographs of former models from the 70s and 80s.  This photograph of Taylor was included in the project and the resulting exhibition in 2011.

Lisa Taylor - © Timothy Greenfield-Sanders

Truth

I love taking photographs and I love visual images, but seeing this photo and thinking about my ‘crush’ reminds me once again that whether it is age, style, Photoshop or something else, the image is not the model. The model is a living, breathing person, better and more real than any image.

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Drawing and story by Marty Coleman, who is beet red right now.

Quote by Cheri Erdman

 

 

 

The Five I’s of the Style Equation – Style Lesson #1

The Style Equation

In my non-Napkin Dad life I also consult, design and develop websites and blogs at times.  I have recently been contracted to redesign and expand a style, fashion, and shopping blog and it has been great fun. It included a number of long conversations with the client about how to  get just the right mix of elements into the website.  That in turn got me thinking about what style really consists of and I came up with the Five I’s.  I think I will spend some time digressing about the I’s eventually but before I do I would love to hear your understanding of the I’s as they apply in your own and other’s styles in fashion and other areas.  Or add in new I’s or whatever other alphabet letter fits!

In addition, Let me know what you think style is, where it comes from, how you know it when you see it, and how it differs from fashion, trends, fads, etc.

Drawing, quote and commentary by Marty Coleman, who got 3 new hats this winter.

Beauty vs. Charm

beauty versus charm

I used to work at a great restaurant in San Jose, California called Eulipia.  One night after work a number of us, 3 women and 3 men, were hanging out at the bar just shooting the breeze.  The women got into a discussion of what sort of men they were attracted to.  One had specific requirements.  Another had an ‘ideal man’.  The third had a long list of traits she was not attracted to.  Us men sat silently listening to them explain these mysteries to us. It took quite a while.

After they were done one of the women turned to us men and asked, “So, what sort of women are you attracted to?”  And without missing a beat, all three of us, in harmony said, “Whoever pays attention to us.”

And that is the secret of how to attract men, seriously.  Yes, looks matter. Yes, we can like certain ‘types’.  But within the very wide range of attraction most men actually have, there is one thing that stands out, the clincher. And that is charm.  The woman with charm, the woman who pays attention to a man, is the one with the advantage, not the one who is most beautiful or has the best figure.

And here is another truth for you men who might be reading this.  It works the other way too. Are you worried you aren’t the most handsome, buffed or tall guy?  Worry less about that and more about if you are actually, sincerely showing interest and care about the woman in front of you. THAT is what matters most, even for the 3 women at the bar that night.



Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman, Publisher of The Napkin Dad Daily.

Quote is by me. It’s a variation on a much longer quote by Adlai Stevenson of all people.


The Pursuit of Beauty

Pursuit of Beauty shirt
Pursuit of Beauty - women’s organic t-shirt by The Napkin Dad
Beauty is ever evolving. Yes, we have certain culturally prevalent inclinations. But they are also changing, they always do.  Look at fashion, furniture, appliances, surfaces, landscapes, decorations, makeup, hairstyles, etc. What is the one consistent thing about all of those? They are always changing. ALWAYS. 

What about the ‘beauty’ you don’t like?  I had a long conversation in a Facebook thread this week. We were talking about some people’s discomfort at how much skin is shown in today’s American society. The other person in the conversation (a woman) thinks most of a woman or man’s body should be seen only by their spouse.  She thinks it demeans and dilutes a marriage for people to show off their bodies in skimpy attire and skimpy bathing suits.  

The two of us have very different opinions about this. BUT what we do have in common is the belief we both have the right to define beauty for ourselves.  She should not be made fun of or pressured to show more than she wants, nor should she be pressured to not state her opinion about what is, in her mind, appropriate to be worn in public.

The flip side is to make sure that, while she has the freedom to express and pursue her own ideas of beauty, she shouldn’t take that idea of beauty and make it absolute for others (and neither should anyone else).


The truth is YOU get to decide what is beautiful, whether in yourself, in others or in the world. You have the right and freedom to pursue your idea of beauty. 

Pursue and enjoy it.




Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily



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