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Jul 08 0 comments
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Change #4 – Parent and Child

It’s the final day of ‘Change Week’ at the NDD.
Next week it will CHANGE to something else!

The child learns from the parents.

Do you want to influence your child to become someone better? Then show him or her the benefits and value of that change by making it in yourself first. NOTHING will be more effective.

When your child sees you growing and becoming something better, whether it is you overcoming an anger issue, an addiction, a tendency to judge others or a million other things, they remember it. Showing your child by your example, that it can be done and that you have the courage and the strength to do it, is what that same child will remember when it comes their time to move forward and change something about themselves.

Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily

Quote by Carl Jung, 1875-1961, Swiss Psychiatrist

One year ago today at the NDD – Every Perfect Traveler

 

Jul 07 0 comments
Bertolt Brecht, change

Change #3 – Things That Are

The day has changed but the topic remains the same, namely CHANGE.It’s Change Week at the NDD.

 

Bessie here likes that some forgetful soul left the gate open for a change. She thinks she will walk to the big city in the distance and get a job, maybe find a boyfriend.  She thinks that would be a cool thing to do, considering the way things are.  It would be a nice change.  She is going to take advantage of the way things are to change the way things are.

For everything to stay just the way it is; no big changes, no small changes, what must happen?  Nothing must happen. What are the chances of nothing happening?  Not much, I agree. So, you can assume change will happen.

What are you going to do to change the way things are?

Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily


 Quote by Bertolt Brecht, 1898-1956, German playright

 

 

Jul 06 0 comments
Benjamin Franklin, change

Change #2 – When You Are Finished

This only being #2, I am not finished with Change Week!

 

 

I read a blog post today from a man who is dead.  It was written before he died and posted by his family when he passed.  He talked about something that you don’t often hear discussed. He said he was making the great transition from human organism to corpse.

 My thinking about what it means to be at an end of something changed a bit after reading that.  Even when we are finished, what we really are is finished being conscious of ourselves as we once were. We still continue to change into something else.  Maybe it’s spiritual, maybe it’s not. But we change no matter what our beliefs are.

 But in the context of being alive and conscious I think the quote is true.  Even if every part of you has been chopped down, you still need to work to grow again.  You might not be the mighty oak anymore. You might not be the mother of young children who are dependent on you. Maybe they have grown and moved away.  Then what? Are you going to just sit down and die?

No, you are going to eventually realize and accept a change has taken place and adapt to it.  Keep growing, keep moving forward. It’s not only good for you, but it’s good for those watching you, especially your children!


 Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily

 Quote by Benjamin Franklin, 1706-1790, American Printer, Inventor, Scientist, Signer of the American Declaration of Independence.

 

Jul 19 0 comments
Caroline Schroeder, change, Heat

>Heat and Light

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Someone told me I should do a series on heat since it has been so hot this summer around the entire North American continent (and parts of Europe I hear). So, it’s Heat Week at The Napkin Dad Daily!

One of the easiest things to do is change your mind due to being intellectually enlightened.  But changing behavior from your heart, your core, that is very hard to do by cool intellectual thought.  Of course eventually if you change your mind about something you might find yourself changing your attitudes or behaviors down the road, incrementally.  And it’s likely they will be long lasting as a result.  But a sudden transformation? Not as likely.


Heat on the other hand will cause changes faster than you can say ‘fire truck’.  That is why AA and other addiction programs talk about a person having to hit rock bottom before they will change.  They have to feel the heat of their life falling down all around them.  Maybe they lose everything, are at the end of their rope. That sort of heat leads to change.  You see it often in religious conversions as well as behavior changes.  


The problem with heat related changes is they can often be short-lived.  The emotion, the danger, the fear all lead to a promise to change, and will to change, but once the heat has passed, it takes a cool light to continue to lead the way, to make a change permanent.  That is why threats of hell or damnation or some other fear based idea aren’t good.  They make people feel heat, but they don’t help them see the light.


So, whether with yourself, family, friends or your children always be ready to supply the light when the heat has died down, which it eventually will.  


Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily


Quote by Caroline Schoeder, no information available. If you find any, forward it to me please, thank you.


Jan 18 0 comments
artist, becoming, change, good, William Shakespeare

>Striving To Be Better, Oft

>I love the grand gesture. I love the big proclamations of gratefulness, love. I love the big confessions and repentences, as seen on TV and sometimes in real life. I am a sucker for them.

But, sometimes those gestures can backfire. Sometimes they are overblown hyperbole; goals not attainable, transformations not sustainable. They come from the right place. They are the soul feeling guilty, the heart needing absolution and a gigantic conversion seems to be just the right thing.

I will no longer be the dog, the ass. I will BECOME the good man, the redeemed woman, the solid citizen, the consummate artist we say to ourselves as we cement our resolve to be better.

But the truth of life is that we backslide. The truth of life is that we return to who we didn’t want to be. We don’t completely return. We don’t not make progress. But we don’t usually stay up in the stratosphere of our epiphanies. What we really do is slowly become. We slowly transform. Yes, sometimes it’s faster than other times. But life transformation is not the montage with music score, it is a barely perceptible change in most cases.

It would be so much more fun if it were like in the movies, wouldn’t it? Maybe it would be. But now that I am older I am glad it isn’t. I like the slow change, the real change of becoming better where you don’t lose the good you already are.

Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily

Quote by William Shakespeare, 1564-1616, English playwright


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