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A Model Confession

Today we have a model image.

models

What does a model look like?

Did you know that most models don’t look like models?  Yes, they have certain base features that most models have; a certain figure proportion, a certain bone structure. But models don’t look like models.  They look like young women, and in most cases, average looking young women.  Models start looking like models when they prepare for a shoot.  The makeup artist, the hair stylist, the art director, the photographer, the photographer’s assistant, the editorial assistant, the advertising agency rep, the advertiser’s rep all play a part in creating the image you see in a magazine.  The model is in the mix, contributing, but it is not her you end up seeing.  It’s a photograph, an image, that you see.

Crush

I should know this since I am a photographer but I always forget and have to be reminded. That is because I have also been a fan and follower of a number of models and photographers for decades. I get seduced into the beautiful image just like anyone else.

In college I had my first major model crush.  It was the model, Lisa Taylor.  She was a well known model in the 70s and 80s. She was a favorite model for the fashion photographer Helmut Newton, whose work I loved.  She also happened to be in one of the all time iconic images from the 70s.

Lisa Taylor wearing Calvin Klein by Helmut Newton

Confession

I had a copy of this Harper’s Bazaar magazine with Ms. Taylor on the cover hidden under my mattress in college.

June, 1977

I had it hidden not because it was pornographic obviously but because it would have been even MORE embarrassing for my roommates to find it than if I had had a Playboy or other men’s magazine. This was because I had a major crush on a girl at school who I thought looked just like Taylor.  I thought they would know right away if they saw the magazine cover.  One day us guys, hard to believe I know, were actually cleaning our rooms and we all decided to flip our mattresses over as we had been taught growing up.  Well, you can guess what happened. They saw the magazine and had a really really big laugh at my expense. I turned bright red from embarrassment as you can imagine.  Just as I thought, they immediately saw the resemblance between the model on the cover and the girl I had a crush on. They didn’t threaten to expose me because they said everyone already knew I had a crush on her. Oops. So much for that secret.

Reality

The truth is the real woman I had a crush on wasn’t perfect like the photograph of Lisa. She didn’t think she was beautiful (and still doesn’t). She had issues with her father, she easily felt guilty about many things.  But she was also energetic, enthusiastic, funny and principled.  And it turns out she had a bit of a crush on me.  We always stayed platonic (well ok, we had one brief kiss) but we had a very emotional time of it during that year.  She ended up marrying a great guy (who she was dating during our crush).  We are still connected and good friends.  She is still herself, positive and negative.  But she is wiser, happier and more real inside and out than she ever was way back when.

Taylor Now

In 2009 Timothy Greenfield-Sanders did a project for Vogue Magazine.  He took photographs of former models from the 70s and 80s.  This photograph of Taylor was included in the project and the resulting exhibition in 2011.

Lisa Taylor - © Timothy Greenfield-Sanders

Truth

I love taking photographs and I love visual images, but seeing this photo and thinking about my ‘crush’ reminds me once again that whether it is age, style, Photoshop or something else, the image is not the model. The model is a living, breathing person, better and more real than any image.

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Drawing and story by Marty Coleman, who is beet red right now.

Quote by Cheri Erdman

 

 

 

The Grass is Greener

Whose world do you water?  There is nothing wrong with watering someone else’s garden, but there is something wrong with neglecting your own.  Whether it’s a wife, husband, home, children, community, family, friends, profession, team or actual garden, if you only pay attention to other ones AT the expense of your own, you will end up with neither.
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A shout out to the Napkin Kin from these countries in the Middle East; Syria, Saudi Arabia, United Arab Emirates and Israel, who have been coming to visit the blog over the last month.  Thank you!
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Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily

Quote author unknown

Green color jealousy  envy desire lust wishes  hopes neglect 2011 grass greener

One Is Apt To Complain

While this may be true of those looking up with envy, the quote actually made me think of those who are higher up. For every person we see above us, there is someone who didn’t rise as far. What is your attitude towards them? Are you looked at as that person who is ungrateful? Have you considered who helped you and the gratitude you owe them?

Maybe it is the administrative assistant who first helped you understand the complexities of office politics. Now that you are a manager, are you still paying attention to that person?

Maybe it is a family member who first showed you how to use a camera and explained how to organize your photos. She remained a hobby photographer. You have gone on to professional photography, but have you stopped to thank that person for helping you on your way?

Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman

Quote by Samuel Johnson, 1709-1784, English Author

>If Envy Has A Shape

>I had a boomerang when I was young. I hurt like the dickens when it actually came back and hit me a few times. (what is a dickens, by the way?)

By the way, do you know the difference between jealousy and envy? Comment here and tell me what it is, ok?

Drawing by Marty Coleman, The Napkin Dad
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Quote by Charley Reese, 1937-not dead yet, American journalist

>Lots of People Know a Good Thing

>What the heck is that thing, anyway? Why is purple duck-lip guy (girl?) kneeling and kissing it? What is its purpose and value?

Green comb-over guy doesn’t know. All he knows is someone has something he doesn’t have and that makes him jealous and envious. He will now pay a lot of money to get a gold thingamajig just like it.

I wish I had a hundred of them in my garage to sell.

Drawing by Marty Coleman, the Napkin Dad
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quote by Job Elmer Hedges, republican primary candidate for NY governor in 1912 & 1914.

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