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Heroes vs Celebrities – Heroes Week #3

I hope I become a famous celebrity for posting Napkin #3 of Heroes Week!

Heroes vs Celebrities

 

Autographs, Please

I remember reading an article in Flying magazine once about my father.  The article was about his exploits as a test pilot in the 1950s, for which he became quite famous. He was famous for a brief while among the general population and has had continued fame within the aviation community ever since.  Still, to this day, I get regular inquiries and requests to interview him, visit him, have autographed photos of him sent. I sent one to Scotland a few years back.

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Skeets Coleman (right) and engineer with the XFY-1 POGO

Legend in Residence

The article started out talking about how the author met my father.  He met him when my father was hired to be Publisher of Business and Commercial Aviation Magazine.  But that is not what the author said. He said he met him when my father was hired to be ‘Legend in Residence’ (or something close, the exact words escape me right now).  I understand that when you are very high up in business they are often hiring your reputation, not just you.  They wanted the cache of saying they had a legendary aviator at the helm. It gave their enterprise gravitas and authority.  I get that.  

 

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Skeets Coleman and Jerry Brown

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Skeets Coleman and Michael Bloomberg

 

Celebrity vs Substance

At the same time it did seem, in my eyes, to diminish his accomplishments during the rest of his career in aviation.  He didn’t just fly one amazing test flight and then do nothing. He had also been a fighter/bomber pilot in WWII, an airport owner, a salesman of high end corporate jets, a corporal in the Marine Reserves, an inventor and innovator in aviation equipment and airplanes.  And he was now at the helm of a very important and influential magazine in his industry.  None of those things brought him the fame of his test pilot exploits, and rightly so. The test flights he took were legendary and they deserved to be. As a matter of fact, as the years past his flights are seen in higher regard not lower.  The farther we get from the time of the flights the more amazing it seems his accomplishments were.  But his other endeavors were valuable, good and worthy of recognition. They proved him to be a man of substance throughout his life, not just an aviation celebrity for one event.

 

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Skeets Coleman on Johnston Island during WWII

 

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Skeets Coleman (3rd on right, front row) and Squadron in WWII

 

I started this out not knowing it would turn into an essay about my father.  But his life is the root of my personal understanding of both hero and celebrity.  I like that he was both and I like that he always knew the difference.

XFY-1 POGO

Here is a 1955 promotional film  that shows what exactly what it was that my father flew in the test fights I have been mentioning.  I think you will be impressed.

 

 

Here is another, shorter video. The volume is very low so you’ll have to turn it up to hear the voiceover.

 

 

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Father's Day – Three Stages of a Man's Life

Nothing beats being a father if only because you get to be Santa!

Check out the Father’s Day card, you might find it’s the perfect card to give to San…I mean your father.


Drawing by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily

Quote by Anonymous

Blue – RIP Gavin Powell

My family is blue today.  I have a cousin, Jim Powell.  His only son Gavin died along with his best friend Matt in a rafting accident this week in Walnut Creek, California.  He was 17, Matt was 16.  There had been heavy rains in the area and after Gavin found an old inflatable raft in his garage they made plans to raft down a local creek.  They wore helmets but no life vests and were unable to navigate in the fast rushing waters.  Both of them died during their trip.  Links to the story are below.

As any parent knows and will tell you, nothing in the complete realm of human existence can be more completely and utterly destructive to one’s soul than losing a child.  I have not had that happen and I am very grateful. But I know the fear, as do all parents I have ever known.  I may not be as controlling of my kids as my wives have been, I may say ‘you have to let them go do this or that’. I am that father who said that is how it has to be to my wives.  But make no mistake, for every time I have said that, and I bet for every other spouse who played the role of the one saying it’s ok to let them go, we knew we were gambling a bit.  All of life is a bit of a gamble, sometimes greater odds, sometimes lesser.  It’s a sad, sad moment when the odds go bad and something like this happens.  The essay below says it better than I can, I encourage parents to read it.

So, why did I illustrate a quote about a dog?  I didn’t draw this to say I hope he has a dog.  I drew it because ‘blue’ can’t always be explained, even when it is so obvious, as in this case.  The pain, the suffering, the what ifs, the if onlys, the guilt, the loss, the anger, the hopelessness, the fear, the emptiness.  They can’t be listed out like that in a broken heart. They can’t be categorized and compartmentalized and logically explained one by one. I can imagine that is what one feels they must do when asked ‘why do you feel blue’.

Maybe it’s best to be like a dog, not ask why, even if we know what we think the answer will be, but just comfort and be.

You can google Gavin Powell to find more
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Drawing by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily


Quote author unknown

>No Longer Forward or Behind

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Day #1 of Gratitude Week at The Napkin Dad Daily
Thanksgiving week is a perfect time to be diligent about practicing ‘now and here’.  Your relatives might be disruptive if they are coming to visit.  You may not like their ‘fly by the seat of their pants’ way of planning a trip to your home.  You might not like their indecisiveness, their politics, their nasty habits or nasty judgments.

But they are coming.  And they will be at your house.  Are you going to ruin your own week by focusing on what you don’t like about them or are you going to enjoy your week by accepting the characters and events as they occur, lessening the time spent wishing things were different and allowing yourself to find what the good in what is happening and be thankful for it?

It’s your choice, you know.
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Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily

Poem by John Greenleaf Whittier, 1807-1892, American Quaker poet

>The Single Biggest Problem in Communication

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I was raised in a somewhat loud, somewhat opinionated, somewhat verbose family.  With an Irish heritage we blamed it on the Irish ‘gift of gab’.  My mother was loud, funny and quick to throw a barb if she saw something pretentious.  My father was argumentative and assertive in his voice and style while still being a charmer.


I married into a family in 1979 that was the exact opposite. They were instilled with a quiet and respectful way of talking to each other. Calm, cool, minimal in outward expression.  They believed in saying nice things, well mannered things and not raising your voice.  


Can you guess where this is going?  My way of communicating, which I had always thought was pretty good, turned out to be so strong and aggressive compared to what my wife was used to, that most anything I said with any outward expression was taken as having much more meaning than I meant it to.  She heard anger where I thought I was expressing passion. She heard insistence where I thought I was expressing enthusiasm.


In the meanwhile, my wife’s method of communicating, which I am sure she thought was pretty good, turned out to be so quiet, deferential and subtle that sometimes I didn’t even know that she had communicated at all.  The passion she felt came out in such a way that it was easy for me to either not hear it, or dismiss it as not being all that important.


As you can imagine it took a long time before we clued into what the other person was really trying to express.  We weren’t ever completely understanding about that and it was an underlying issue among larger issues that led to our divorce in 2000, after 20 years of marriage.


The reason I tell this story is to give you insight and an admonition.  The insight might seem obvious to some, but we all have blind spots.  Remind yourself that each individual hears uniquely, both sounds and meaning behind the sounds.  The admonition follows from that.  Do not go into any relationship, casual or serious, with the assumption that your way of communicating is the best way.  You might have a good way, but chances are so does the other person.  You might have blind spots about how you talk, the words you use, the manner in which you deliver them, that others see and don’t necessarily appreciate or understand.  


Evaluating yourself to become better includes evaluating your words and their delivery.


Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily


Quote by George Bernard Shaw, 1856-1950, Irish playwright.  Just imagine, he was old enough to be aware during the American civil war (1861-1865) and lived to see WWII being fought and resolved (1939-1945).  That is an amazing span of life.

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