Category Archives: friends

Friendship Is Like Money

I am still on the road, but headed to the airport soon to make my way back to Tulsa. I was able to do a photoshoot on the beach on Coronado Island with an old friend and her husband yesterday. It got me thinking about friendship.

friendship

When my kids left the house for school every day my recurring farewell was, ‘Make good friends and keep good friends.’ One of my favorite things in the world is having old friends. My second favorite thing is making new ones knowing that if I treat them right and pay attention to them when I can, they will soon become old friends as well. That might take years, it might take a few days, like it did with some of the people I met at the recent BlogWorld conference I attended.

I look forward to many of them becoming old friends.

Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily

Quote by Samuel Butler, 1835-1902, English author

Friends – Blog World LA – Day 4

Whenever you go to a conference there is that dreaded feeling that you won’t know anyone, no one will befriend you and you will spend a lot of time roaming the cavernous halls of some center feeling alone amidst thousands of people. It doesn’t usually end up happening at that level but the anticipation of it is there and the reality of conference life definitely includes stretches of those times.

Luckily, I ended up with some great new friends with whom I was able have great conversations, pal around with from session to session, catch at lunch or a party and get to know. The anticipation of being completely alone was replaced with the anticipation of seeing my friends again shortly, even if I was alone.

new friends

Here are three of my new found friends, Leslie, Shanna, and John. I drew this during the last lunch. They were fun, happy, and friendly. They also happened to be fantastic encouragers for me before I gave my presentation and enthusiastic supporters after. It is very gratifying to have them as new friends. Many others became good friends as well, and I am grateful for all of them!

Blog World Los Angeles is now over. I tweeted to the conference participants to see if anyone was headed down south to San Diego where I will be visiting my sister, her family and my father. Sure enough I got a quick response and am now going to hitch a ride in exchange for gas. So, next stop the beach and a commissioned photo shoot on Tuesday!

Thanks again to all my Napkin Kin!
Marty

Saying What You Think

I have known a lot of people over the years who take pride in saying, “I am honest, I say what I think.”  These people fall into two categories. Those who say it but don’t really do it as much as the comment might suggest, and those who really do it.  

Those in the first category are people who use what is called discernment.  They have the ability to speak honestly, to say what they think, when it is wise and appropriate to do so.  The can be a person’s best friend because you can rely on them to tell you the truth without being stupid or mean.

Those in the second category are those who love the brutality in ‘brutal honesty’ more than the honesty.  They aren’t anyone’s best friend because whatever honesty they have is so tinged with meanness and a lack of discernment that they can’t be trusted or relied upon.

Those people are usually cocksure and bellicose in defense of their honesty. They also are woefully ignorant of who they really are and obsessively mean in their character assassinations disguised as ‘truth’.   I don’t like those people unless they are on reality TV, then I like watching them as a warning to myself and as a psychological study in self-destructive behavior and attitudes.

Do you know people like that?  Do you agree with my characterization of them?  What would you add or subtract?


Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily
Quote by Anonymous

Metaphor #3 – Friends

It’s day 3 of Metaphor week.  I am enjoying my new book, ‘I Never Metaphor I Didn’t Like – a comprehensive compilation of history’s greatest analogies, metaphors, and similes’, but I am realizing as I go that so many quotes I have read and used over the years have been in one of those three categories already!

Sometimes I feel like that myself.  I am a very social person and I actually keep up with many people from my past, people who are life-long friends, but like many men, I don’t have a ton of close guy friends.


I first realized this when I got divorced in 2000.  One of the elements that led up to the divorce caused there to be a split between friend and I.  Until that happened I thought of him as a guy I saw once in a while. We socialized, had some creative and extended family elements in common, but that was about it.  But after it happened I realized that he was one of my closest guy friends.  It actually seemed sort of pathetic to me at the time.  This guy I spend barely any time with turns to be one of my closest friends.  It made the divorce all the harder.


That is one reason I like organized recreation, such as the running group I am in.  I have been injured lately (achilles tendon) and so have not been running.  I have really missed it. In part because of the exercise (I have gained weight for sure) but also because of the friendships.  I miss hearing what is going on in people’s lives. I miss telling stories of my life.  I miss encouraging my friends.


Yesterday I mentioned something I used to say to my daughters as they went to school in the morning. I would say ‘Make good friends, keep good friends’.  How do you do those two things?
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Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily


Quote by Rose MaCaulay, 1881-1958, British writer
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One year ago today at the NDD – Politics is More Dangerous
Two years ago – Bowling God Day
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Metaphor #2 – Presents

Don’t forget, if you are local to the Tulsa area, the first ever Social Media Tulsa Conference is this Thursday!  I am going to be speaking in the afternoon, hope you can make it!
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It’s day #2 of Metaphor Week!  

This goes along with something I said to my daughters many mornings as they left for school, “Make good friends, keep good friends”.
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Drawing and sentence by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily

Quote by Robert Louis Stevenson, 1850-1894, Scottish novelist.
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One year ago today at the NDD – I am Completely in Favor of the Separation
Two years ago today – I Like to Pay Taxes
Three years ago today – The Artist, Like the Bees, Must
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