Category Archives: memory

Sep 11 2 comments
American, freedom, Heroes, memory, New York City, pain, patriotism

In Memoriam

 

9/11
In Memoriam

Total dead: too many

Total injured: too many

Total relatives and friends of the dead and injured: too many

Total military dead in subsequent wars: too many

Total military injured in subsequent wars: too many

Total relatives and friends of the war dead and injured: too many

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Oct 15 0 comments
memory, Memory, Venice

>Regret For The Things We Did

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I am almost positive this is the last day of ‘Memory Week’ at The Napkin Dad Daily
I am not a big regret guy.  But I do regret some things I did.  I regret not treating my first wife better.  I regret not working harder as an artist.  But truly most of my regrets are about the things I didn’t do.  Usually from lack of courage.

My daughters and I went to Europe in 2003, before I met Linda, my wife.  We spent a few days in Venice, Italy and one evening we took a long water taxi ride.  During the ride I went out back, away from my daughters, and met a couple with a third person.  The third person was a attractive woman who was suppose to come with someone else but that person had bowed out at the last moment and as a result she obviously felt like a third wheel. She was funny, cute and endearing and I liked talking with her a great deal.

We had a very nice, animated conversation about all sorts of things; what we did, how we liked Europe, etc.  They were going to a certain restaurant for dinner, we were going elsewhere.  But the woman mentioned that after dinner she didn’t know what she was going to do. She didn’t want to hang out with the couple the entire time, wanting to give them some ‘alone’ time in the romantic environment.

I told her I wasn’t sure what we were going to do either.  We continued to talk about this and that and then it was our stop to get off.  I knew where she was going to dinner, and where she was staying.  We got off, went to dinner and then walked around a bit until we went back to our B & B.  It was an enjoyable evening.

But to this day, I regret not having made plans with that woman to meet up after our dinners and take a walk around Venice.   I regret not telling my grown daughters I was going to take off for an hour or so after we got back to the B & B, and go and find the woman to take that walk.  I don’t imagine a great love affair, I only imagine a nice walk with a new friend who I wanted to spend more time with.

Funny too, in the absence of actually having that memory, I have an imagined memory about what would have happened. 
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Drawing by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily

Quote by Sydney J. Harris, 1917-1986, American Journalist

Oct 14 0 comments
Francois de La Rochefoucauld, memory, Memory

>How Comes It That Our Memories Are Good Enough

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I can’t remember if I told you this, but it’s ‘Memory Week’ at The Napkin Dad Daily
I have great stories from my life and I like to tell them.  So, as a service to mankind and to help you avoid the problem mentioned in the napkin today, I have this suggestion;  if you happen to hear one of my stories twice think of it as seeing a rerun of your favorite TV show during the summer.  See, wasn’t that easy?

My father, who is 92, is sharp as a tack mentally.  For about 2 minutes.  Then he forgets what I have told him and asks again how the family is doing; daughters, wife, etc.  I will recount for him what I had just told him and about the 2nd or 3rd time it pretty much sinks in and he is up to date on things, for a while.  

We should all have someone like that at our disposal so we can tell our stories as many times as we want and not worry about having told it before!
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Drawing by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily (I repeat this line EVERY DAY, have you noticed that?)

Quote by François duc de La Rochefoucauld, 1613-1680, French writer
Snappy Dresser

Oct 13 2 comments
memory, Memory

>Nostalgia is a Seductive Liar

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I have nostalgia for ‘memory week’ at The Napkin Dad Daily and it’s not even over yet!
I am wary of nostalgia.  I think about the inclinations so many people have to think back on the ‘good old days’. They have what I think is a glossy hollywood version of the past in their minds.  

They may have had a perfect upbringing, but the person who says ‘when I was young….yada yada yada’, who sends out chain email extolling the grand virtues of their self-reliant generation, who recount the idyllic American life they lived is being seduced by nostalgia. 

They forget that: 
  • Their African-American friends, if they had any, couldn’t sit on the bus with them.
  • Their mothers didn’t get anywhere near equal pay for equal work.
  • Their father was not given any rights when their parents got divorced. 
  • Their brother was shipped off to Vietnam.  
  • Their sister overdosed on drugs.  
  • The Jewish kid down the street was called a Jesus killer.  
  • The Mexican kid at school was called a wetback.  
  • Their effeminate cousin was bullied mercilessly at school and his father disowned him.
  • *Some of these things unfortunately still go on, and when they happen today we hopefully recognize it as negative. 
Don’t be fooled by looking backwards with rose colored glasses.  Each generation has its triumphs and burdens. Each generation has its shame and its glory. 

Even the greatest generation had its weaknesses.
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Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily
Quote by George W. Ball, 1909-1994, American Diplomat

Oct 12 1 comments
memory, Memory, Michel de Montaigne

>Nothing Fixes a Thing So Intensely

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Late yesterday I think I remembered that I hadn’t ever done a series on Memory yet.



A statement of logic and heart:


1. Most of the memories I can’t forget are about things I regret.  


2.  For every regret, there is a lesson learned.


3.  I don’t mind remembering a lesson learned.


Thus:  I don’t want to forget that which I regret.


Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily




Quote by Michel de Montaigne, 1533-1592, French Essayist and statesman

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