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Early on in life, when our opinions and ideas about things are not yet fully formed, and we might be parroting our parents or teachers or friends, we often raise our voices to express our opinion in inverse proportion to how comfortable we are with them. It’s as if we are trying them out to see how they fit but don’t want to admit it so we flaunt them with the assuredness only available to the young.
The same could be said of religion (which is a type of opinion when you get right down to it). Other ways of saying it are ‘the proof is in the pudding’ or ‘if you are going to talk the talk, you better walk the walk’.
Whatever the saying, the idea is the same. The only way to prove you really believe what you say you believe is for your actions to consistently (not perfectly, just consistently) reflect your beliefs and opinions.
I am much better at talking about what I believe than I am in backing it up with action. But what I have learned over time is to rein in my words, to keep them closer to what I know I will act on than to just talk about ideas as if I really can act on them all.
That is why I try in my writings here to put in the caveat that I am preaching to myself or that the idea I am presenting is one I haven’t learned very well yet.
It is important to reach farther than you can grasp though, so one should always aspire to greater things than you are sure you can achieve. You just need to keep words and deeds in close contact at all times!
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> When I come across people who have no doubt about something and combine that with a belief that ‘change’ is a sign of giving in, of weakness, I know I am in for a rough time in any conversation regarding opinions or beliefs.
Here is why. The person is not going to be listening to ideas for their own value but only as attacks to be repelled. They often will think that merely listening to an idea is tantamount to having to take it as their own. They don’t have the willingness to consider an idea because they don’t realize they can listen, evaluate and reject or accept.
Every idea is a threat because they do not actually have a well-defined strength of belief. The facade is so strong exactly because the inside is so vulnerable.
Quote by Samuel Butler, 1835-1902, British Author
This is a tough one for people to grasp. It means you have to look inward and be honest about what is in YOU instead of what is in the person you are judging.
For example, let’s say you have a low opinion of a person at your work who has noticeable tattoos all over his body. What does seeing all those tattoos bring up in yourself? I don’t mean your surface reasons for not liking them. I mean your interior anxieties that the tattooed presence brings out. What is he making you see in yourself?
Let’s say you have a high opinion of a glamorous, high society client. What does she do for you, for your ego, your dreams, your aspirations, that make you think highly of her? What is she making you see in yourself?