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The Difference Between Excuses and Reasons

I was going to make this Jesusmas Week but I had a realization while responding to a post by my friend Crystal Andrus about blame and this quote came out of it.

Think about it, what do you learn when you make an excuse?  You learn nothing.  Excuses are way of getting out of trouble, or explaining away deficiencies & failures.  They are ways of avoiding responsibility.  One doesn’t learn anything from those things.

Here are two different explanations of the exact same event.  One is an excuse; My alarm didn’t go off like it should have, that’s why I was late’.  The other is a reason; ‘I didn’t properly set my alarm, that is why I am late’.  One has a lessen attached; double check that you set your alarm properly.  The other has no lesson, it’s said in the hope of not having someone get mad at you.

To learn lessons from life, both think AND verbalize so you are stating a reason, not making an excuse.

More differences:

The old saying is ‘Everything happens for a reason’ not ‘Everything happens for an excuse’.  

You MAKE an excuse, but you HAVE a reason.

Nobody ever says ‘Reasons, reasons’.

When someone sneezes, they don’t say ‘reason me’.

What are some other differences?
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Drawing, commentary and quote by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily

>No Snowflake in an Avalanche

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We saw this quote on the wall at Santa Fe Cattle Co. (it’s a restaurant)
when we were out getting laurel bushes for our back yard,
so I don’t know the author.

I loved the example of something that contributes to a catastrophe
in such a small way that it is impossible to blame that thing.
Nonetheless without that one thing, person, ceo, bureaucrat, etc.
and a million more like him/her the catastrophe would never have
taken place.

So, what is the lesson when you really can’t place individual blame?
Is it to not let bankers gather in large groups at resort spas? Maybe
don’t let too many talking heads on TV at one time? Or maybe we
should do what people in the mountains do to prevent avalanches,
shoot a cannon in their general direction and disperse the danger!

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