Category Archives: Perfectionism

Being Perfect is Being Alone – Perfect Perfectionist series #4

It may be another week but it’s still the perfect day to continue my perfection series.

Being perfect is being alone

Do you know anyone who is perfect? See, proves my point. All perfect people are alone.  And all who pretend to be perfect, they end up alone too. Maybe not physically alone, but emotionally and socially they quite likely will be.  This will be especially true if they combine their perfection with judgment.

But wasn’t Jesus perfect?  Personally I don’t think he was.  I think he had imperfect reactions at times.  For example, I think he was often annoyed and impatient with his followers (including his mother) instead of being understanding and patient.  Realistically, I think he might have been grumpy and short with people if he was too hungry.  He seems to have been harsh and a bit mean to whole groups of religious folks (the pharisees come to mind).  He certainly was inconsiderate to his parents when he stayed behind in the temple when he should have been with them on the journey home.  I think of Jesus as one who moved towards perfection much faster and with more courage than others (especially me) but I don’t think he was perfect.

Are you perfect? Or perhaps you just play a perfect person in real life?  Either way you are probably much more alone than you wish to be.  It’s not fun being #1 and alone.  I bet you will find a lot of loving people ready to support and help you when you allow your honest, imperfect self to show through.

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Drawing, quote and commentary by Marty Coleman, who humbly submits that he has perfected the art of being imperfect.

 

Perfection and Progress – The Perfect Perfectionist series #3

It’s hard to improve on yesterday’s I know, but here is #3 of Perfectionist week.

Perfection and Progress - The Perfect Perfectionist #3

I doubt many perfectionists would agree with this.  But if you are a perfectionist and you believe in improvement how do you explain your constant belittling of yourself and your efforts while in the very act of improving?  You know that you have to not be perfect in order to improve, otherwise you would already have achieved what you were attempting, right?  If you believe in improvement in life, work, relationships, hobbies, creativity, art, and more then you should aspire to improve, not to be perfect.

What do you perfectionists think? Do you agree with the quote and with me or do you disagree?

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Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman, who is Wabi Sabi.

Quote by Mr. Anonymous

Nice and Imperfect – The Perfect Perfectionist series #2

It’s a perfect day to give you #2 of my Perfectionist series.

Perfectly Imperfect

Really? How you stand apart from others, how you are imperfect, brings joy? Sometimes it brings the bad kind of joy that isn’t really joy at all. It’s gossipy, mean-spirited, resentful,  entertaining judgment disguised as joy.  That is what much of today’s reality TV is based on.  Real housewives, top models, bad restaurant and salon owners, locals who aren’t local to your locale, celebrities who wear something odd, anyone who can be seen as displaying what we would never do, wear, say, eat, play or believe.  That is the ‘I will look at you, laugh at you and judge you so I can feel better about myself’ sort of joy.  If that is what you indulge in, you are not only not doing yourself or your world any favors, you actually are doing damage to yourself and those around you.

So, can how you stand apart, how you are imperfect, bring legitimate joy?  Yes, you can obviously bring joy when you are a good example in your imperfection. Maybe overcoming an obstacle, maybe fighting back from a setback.  Or perhaps you are a going to only be a vehicle for joy by being a warning to others about how not to proceed in life; not a good example, but a bad example.

By the way, I allowed a few ‘imperfections’ to stay in the drawing, can you find them?

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I happened upon a fantastic TED lecture this morning by Brene Brown. It addresses the idea of shame and vulnerability in a very compelling way. And it struck me that it really was addressing the issue of perfectionism and the fear of judgment as well.  Find some time today to watch (or just listen to) this 20 minute presentation. It is well worth it and illuminates many ideas that are worth considering. Plus she is funny as all get out.

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Drawing by Marty Coleman, who is ashamed to admit many things.

Quote by Doug Larson, 1926 – not dead yet, American journalist

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