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Day #5 of Sex Week at The Napkin Dad Daily
Wait a second, isn’t this a sexist comment? Maybe, if you think being a ‘sex object’ is wrong under any circumstances. I define ‘sex object’ as being the object of sexual desire.
It is true in the great myth of Venus. She is stripped of a well rounded set of human traits, reduced to represent one thing, sex. The most famous of her images, the sculpture ‘Venus de Milo’ is without arms, unable to do anything but stand there, frozen as an object. Of course, that isn’t how the sculpture was created, but it’s current state makes it a great example of what I am talking about.
In the media, that idea of sex object is stripped down to its most basic elements. There is an objectification on top of objectification until you get to where there is nothing but an unknown object and a single minded desire for that object. That type of ‘sex object’ is pretty empty and eventually unfulfilling for both the object and the objectifier.
But in the complete human experience, a real life lived by a real human (male or female), being the object of sexual desire isn’t off the table. It is available to the well rounded person who wants that. The problem comes when that becomes the primary means of feeling value or getting attention and affection.
So, by all means, be a sex object if you want. It can be fun and playful. But watch out for that taking over and being ALL you are focused on being.
Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily
Quote by Betty Rollins, 1936-not dead yet, American author and reporter.
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Jan
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Day 4 in the feminism series.
This isn’t about cliche feminism, it’s about facing reality and oneself, no matter your gender. It’s about real feminism, the feminism of equality and differences co-existing in an atmosphere of forgiveness, understanding, admitting wrong, working sincerely for equality, examining self & society and taking responsibility for your part.
Those things are the signs of victory for both sides.
And enjoying each other, don’t forget that!
Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily
Quote by Henry Kissinger (I know, really? Yes, really), 1923-not dead yet, German born American Diplomat
Jan
21
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Does that voting booth look a bit dated? It’s a voting booth style that saw American women for the first time, in 1920. That was 90 years ago.
It’s hard to believe that not only didn’t women have the right to vote only 90 years ago but guess what? It was preached from churches, preached in congress, preached in the marketplace, preached in the home, that women weren’t CAPABLE of voting intelligently. And, not only men thought that, some women thought that too and were against having their own right to vote. I am not joking.
Who changed the mind of America? Was it politicians? preachers? theologians? businessmen? No, it was feminists. It was women who fought for what was right. Who argued and protested and were arrested and condemned and shunned and labeled and destroyed in some cases.
Don’t be fooled into thinking that type of thinking is long gone. It isn’t, and it will creep back as long as people, men and women, don’t see it for what it is. Fathers, are you teaching your daughters to be strong and to know themselves, or are you teaching them to be a doormat? Mothers, are you teaching your daughters to respect themselves and to know their value, or are you teaching them to be prostitutes of one stripe or another?
Drawing and Commentary by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily
Quote by Dame Rebecca West, 1892-1983, English Author Read about her amazing life and career here.
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Not trivial questions: Which country was the first to allow women to vote? Which countries STILL do not allow women to vote?
Jan
20
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Day 2 of my feminist series. That, of course, means these are feminine napkins.
In the US we seem to have made great progress (though not complete) towards equality in job opportunity among the sexes. I know it isn’t equal in all industries though and there are two reasons for this; men and women.
Yes, in most cases, it’s men in charge and men with the attitude that says women can’t do it. But there are also women in those industries who believe the same thing. They have bought into the idea that they can’t do the job.
For that to change, the mindsets of both men and women have to change. Women need the courage to fight for the jobs they want, men need to courage to overcome their outmoded prejudices and see that that the world will not fall apart just because changes come.
Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily
Quote by Florynce Kennedy, 1916-2000, American lawyer and activist. Read about her amazing life here.
Jan
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Day one of a week-long series on feminism and equality.
Disappearing does seems easy sometimes, seems like a relief because you don’t have to make decisions about what you want to do, who you want to be, how you want to act, what interests you.
But what seems like the easy way often turns into a very hard way and this is why. Because sooner or later you are going to find that you want your own identity and you will be playing catch up, or you will have lived your life and found it is too late and you have none. That will be a depressing moment.
So, no matter how strong or domineering the people or person are who you are connected to, you have no other successful option than to be strong and resolute in standing up for who you want to be. If that means you have to argue, then you argue. The option of just keeping quiet to avoid an argument will work for a while, but in the long run it will only succeed in building resentment from you and imbalance in the relationship.
Oh, and don’t blame the other person or people. They may make it difficult, true. But you, and only you, are responsible for creating yourself. Saying someone is in your way is a sterile statement. Either fight your way past the person or rid yourself of the person.
Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily
Quote by Betty Friedan in ‘The Feminine Mystique’, published 1963
