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If this is you, think of this. Imagine you are getting ready for a big holiday. You are stressing out because YOU are in charge of it all. EVERYTHING depends on you for the dinner, the event, the guests, the EVERYTHING. No one else can do it, will do it, could do it, knows how to do it, wants to do it. You are the ONLY one!
Then imagine this scenario. Out of the blue, you HAVE to fly off to a very important event for your company in Fiji. You can’t miss it, you can’t get out of it, you can’t reschedule it. It falls right over the entire holiday week.
What do you think is happening back at home during that holiday? Is nothing getting done? Is there no meal, no presents, no events, no transportation, no planning? Did everyone just sit at home and cancel plans because you weren’t there?
No, the truth is that that holiday went on. It was different with you not there, it might have been a bit less organized. But maybe it was also less stressful. Your work, though appreciated, was not so absolutely essential to that celebration that the event ceased to exist just because you ceased to be there.
You are needed in this world, but you aren’t so needed and essential that the world ceases to exist if you are gone. Reduce your stress by realizing you are just one person and the rest of the world is functioning along side you, you are not alone.
Drawing by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily
Quote by Bertrand Russell, 1872-1970, British philosopher
But it is also true that people FREAK out over things that are small, that are not emergencies. I often wonder if it isn’t something biological that unconsciously requires certain people to stress, to freak out, as if the act of stressing makes something happen in their bodies and brains that is needed. It might not be healthy, but somehow the body and brain feed off it, need it, and so their life is designed to have stress, to have drama, even if they say they don’t like it.
That is one of the most important things to look at when trying to figure out how to change your life. Figure out WHY you like this thing you say you hate enough to have it repeat again and again. The thing you hate whether it be stress or drama or something else, gives you something you want, inspite of you hating it. What is that?
Drawing and Commentary by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily blog.
Quote by Natalie Goldberg, 1948-not dead yet, American Author