Category Archives: vanity

Red – Beauty, Comfort and Kick-ass Red Lipstick

Have you noticed yet that I am doing a series and I haven’t even told you?  It’s on color.  So far we have white, green, blue and today, red.
Do you like GREEN eyeshadow? THEN why aren’t you wearing it?
Do you like PURPLE bras? then why aren’t YOU wearing one?
Do you like PINK?  Then why isn’t your ROOM painted it?
Do you like RED lipstick? Then WHY aren’t you wearing it?

Finally, are you a cyclops?  No, of course you aren’t.  BUT, you are unique somehow.  Why aren’t you admitting, allowing and celebrating that uniqueness?

You aren’t EVER going to be comfortable in someone else’s skin, only, if you are lucky, in your own.  So, why are you living your life to please those who don’t like green eyeshadow, purple bras, pink rooms and RED lipstick?

I mentioned yesterday that my cousin’s son, Gavin Powell, died in a terrible tragedy this week.  Reading about him in his friend’s memorial tributes online you get the picture of a very unique and fun young man. One who wanted to grow a beard at age 16 and did. Who liked Rastafarian style hats and wore them.  He was seen as a bit eccentric.  My response? Three cheers for it!  The world needs more uniqueness, more eccentricity, not less.

My grandfather, who spent many summers in Colorado, got into the habit of collecting and wearing western style bolo ties as he got older.  My father inherited some of those and would wear them as well.  I, in turn, have inherited them, and have some of my own.  I love bolo ties.  Not only do I think they look kick-ass cool, they connect me to my father and grandfather just the same as a ring might for a woman.  In the meanwhile, my wife isn’t so hot on them. But guess what?  I love my wife, and I don’t want to embarrass her (that’s why I shower once in a while) but I am going to wear bolo ties when I want to wear bolo ties.  And I hope she wears what she wants, even if I don’t think it’s the greatest thing.

Being comfortable in your own skin means be who you WANT to be, in style and substance.
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Drawing and commentary/rant by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily

Quote by Gwyneth Paltrow, 1972- not dead yet, American actress

Refusing Praise

For all you out there who dismiss praise and compliments, think about this one.  You probably will say no, I really don’t want or like compliments. But then ask yourself what you get out of rejecting them. What you get is ego satisfaction perhaps. Satisfaction that you are being humble, fulfilling the edict to not be vain or filled with self.  And in turn you probably wouldn’t mind being praised for that.
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Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily

Quote by Francois de La Rochefoucauld, 1613-1680, French author

>Virtue Would Not Go So Far

>A variation on a theme I return to again and again, that of mixed motives in what we do in life.

Most people look for purity of motive in deciding whether to judge someone positive or negative. The more obvious virtue in the act, the better the judgment, the more vanity in the act, the worse the judgment.

I think that is us being enamored of a fictitious ideal. We like the stories of old that idealize the heroes and it such a clear and easy world those stories tell of that we dearly wish to find that in real life. However, reality is the ultimate hard-ass partner, not allowing us the luxury of that fantasy for very long.

Why not simply embrace that virtue and vanity are linked, that one will always travel with the other. Why think that is wrong for them to travel side by side? Why not welcome them when they accompany one of your friends or family, or a celebrity you see on TV? You might as well, since you know V and V are going to accompany you when you go visiting, and you would like them to be welcomed as part of who you are, right?

It makes life much more comfortable and real to admit the reality of our lives and our motives in it.

Drawing by Marty Coleman, the Napkin Dad
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quote by Francois, Duc de la Rochefoucauld, French aphorist and swashbuckling roque, 1613-1680

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