I do this too much. One of my biggest struggles is distracting myself from the task at hand with busy work, or pseudo work. In March I had a breakthrough in what I focused on and pay attention to and where my mind and heart are at as I go about my daily workday. And I have kept with that breakthrough so far. But I have found I still get busy wasting time and I believe it hinders a number of efforts I am making in my life and career. So, I am making progress, but wish I was making it faster.
Stephen Covey, in his book ‘Seven Habits of Highly Effective People’ has what he calls the ‘Time Management Matrix’. Here it is. It’s helped me in the past. I still have a card with it on it, that sits on my workdesk.
If you haven’t ever read Covey’s book, I highly recommend it. You can find it at any bookstore, library and probably most of your friends’ houses. Ask, I bet they will let you borrow it. Quadrant II is where I need to spend more time. I am relatively good at the relationship building and learning/developing but I tend to get excited about new things and forget about the things already in the pipeline. I also tend to procrastinate when it comes to planning.
What I am committing myself to is be more diligent and focused on that quadrant. What quadrant causes you issues and what are you doing about it?
In the meanwhile, you should go to Sid Savara’s blog posting that discusses this same thing. It’s funny with cartoon illustrations but still gets the seriousness of the ideas across.
Drawing and commentary by Marty Cole…oh look, a sloth!
It’s no secret that today is day #3 of Social Media Secrets week!
Not For Yourself
If you are writing, photographing, drawing, singing, acting, or just ranting, there is one truth underneath it all. You want an audience. Pretending that you are ONLY doing it for yourself is your way of protecting yourself from the failure of gaining an audience. Perhaps you are or were the high school writer or poet who said, ‘Oh, I don’t create for other people, only for myself.’ That’s a lie.
Admitting Equals Wanting
How do I know it’s a lie? Because if it were true we would NEVER hear you admit you are poet or writer in the first place. The very fact that you are telling the world you are creating it is proof you want an audience. You might want a small audience; maybe mom, dad, and your little sister, but you still want an audience. But if you put it out for the world to see or read, then it is an audience you seek.
Admit this truth and get it out of the way. Admit you have an ego, you want attention, you want validation, you want recognition. Work toward it and don’t be ashamed of it. But here is the caveat; MAKE SURE what you are creating is WORTHY of attention. If you are just being a copy cat, a plagiarizer, a derivative hack, then you don’t deserve an audience. The person you are stealing from deserves the audience, not you.
Drawing by Marty Coleman, who really truly did see a coyote standing still in the middle of the street last night while listening to a woman named Grasshopper talk on the radio and watching a giant beautiful thunderhead build in the setting sun sky.
SOPA is a US House bill 3261 (PIPA is the senate version) calling for stronger anti-piracy accountability on the internet. The original idea has some merits of course, many countries are rampant with piracy of movies and music that hurts American and other entertainment companies. I have no problem with them wanting to protect their intellectual and creative property, just as I want to protect mine.
The problem is that the bill is overkill. It allows corporations to shut down alleged violator’s websites without any due process or review from a neutral authority. That can, and you can bet will, lead to the capricious and damaging use of that power. A big multi-national corporation that just happens to not like the information and creativity on a website could easily put pressure on the host/provider, with legal backing, to close down the supposedly offensive site. Their ‘sin’ could be parody, or whistleblowing or creative sampling. Who knows. The point is that we want to protect intellectual rights. But we also want to protect creative and intellectual freedom and we can’t do that unless our laws follow guidelines that do not allow for abuse by those in power.
Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman
I now have a Slide Show page. This month’s drawings can be seen all at one time here:
Day #5 of Internet Week at The Napkin Dad Daily
Perhaps your first thought after reading this is imagining a sexual creep. And no doubt, there are plenty of those. But what I think about more are the ones that are the most perverse, the creepiest, the ones that put a shiver down my spine. they aren’t the sexual ones, they are the violent ones.
The ones who promote violence against women, children, immigrants, african-americans, government representatives, corporate officers, police, spiritual systems not their own and more. There might be a sexual sadism to some of these creeps, but in it’s essence the perversity is about violence.
They have rage that is disconnected from reality, reason, civility, morality. They aren’t interested in understanding anything. They just want to attack, and attack they do. I have come across pages where the level of vehemence is so high I can only imagine the toxic ‘smell’ in the place those words are being typed.
There is only one simple antidote to this, and it is your own goodness. Fighting against violence is good and important, but not all of us can do that first hand. What we can do is make sure we never contribute to it with time, money, encouragement or tacit agreement. Don’t let that happen.
Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily
Quote by Penn Jillette, 1955- not dead yet, American entertainer
Day #4 of Internet Week at The Napkin Dad Daily
I hadn’t thought about it before but this quote is so frickin’ accurate it’s scary.
- The mean-spirited get drunk in their maliciousness.
- The loner becomes the lurker.
- The sarcastic become world famous snarkers.
- The sweet hearted become boundary breaking encouragers and supporters.
- The pretentious intellectual becomes a know-it-all bore.
- The funny thinker becomes the life of the chat room party.
The distance from consequences of a real relationship and the safety from physical violence are the main chemicals that replace the alcohol molecule but the effect is the same. You say and do things that would usually remain in check, would remain more subtle.
Sometimes these things are good. Just as sometimes a person comes out of their shell a bit if they have a drink or two, so it is on the internet. But it’s also filled with weboholics, those who go too far, talking and acting in ways they never would in real life or if they were sober.
Who are you on the internet?
Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman
Quote by Esther Dyson, 1951-not dead yet, Swiss born journalist, venture capitalist and commentator on digital technology. Read up on her at her website or in a bio on the Huffington Post. She sounds like an amazing person!