Of course, you can’t compare it to death, since you don’t know what death is like yet. All you can do is compare your life to other people’s lives. And then you soon find that out the obvious, that it is harder than some, easier than others.

The important question isn’t whether your life is hard or not, it’s what is making it hard.

Is it physically hard, as in poverty, squalor, malnutrition, destitution, abuse, disease?

Is it socially hard as in no friends, no family, no support, no relief, no connections?

Is it intellectually hard as in losing your religion, feeling alone in the uncaring universe, not understanding things being taught to you?

Is it emotionally hard as in feeling unloved, betrayed, misunderstood, alone, depressed?

If ALL those things (and more) are true of your life, then yes – YOUR life is hard. But if just a few of those things are true, then a PART of your life is hard. What about the other part? What can you learn about coping, healing, fixing, understanding the hard parts by looking at the parts that aren’t hard. What are you doing in those areas that make it easy, good, fun? Can you apply that mentality, approach, feeling, to the hard parts?

The main thing to remember is that it isn’t ‘life’ that is hard or not. It is YOUR life that is hard or not. That means YOU are the deciding factor.

Drawing and quote © Marty Coleman