But this is the wrong way to do it. If you are a wife or a boss, a girlfriend or a co-worker, reminding someone is an act of kindness, not one of anger.
I know with me I am not intentionally forgetting something when I can’t remember. I am not testing someone, I am not out to annoy someone. I am simply not remembering.
What I need, and I suspect most men need, is to be reminded in a simple, non-judgmental and neutral way, what it is I might be forgetting. That might be an appointment, or a thank you card I am supposed to write, or a home improvement project I let slide.
Nobody needs to be harangued and nagged about stuff. They need a partner or partners to help them achieve what the need and want to achieve (or to just find the car keys).
Is this only true about men? No, of course not. It really doesn’t matter the gender, the attitude of care and help is what matters.
Drawing and commentary © Marty Coleman
“Men more frequently require to be reminded than informed.” – Samuel Johnson, 1709-1784, English author
>DUDE I totally nag my husband. He was a horrible memory and often forgets things that I've asked him to do and well, I do a little more than remind him. Sometimes I feel like a bully but goddammit how can one be so forgetful? Yes yes, I need to work on it.