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I am trying to remember if I have done a series on memory yet.
I have had some relationships over my life with people who have had long memories for slights and injuries. I know this because as I got to know them I found out all the places we couldn’t go and things we couldn’t do. We couldn’t go to this restaurant because a former boyfriend and she had gotten in a fight there. We couldn’t watch this old movie because it reminded her of a really bad experience she had as a child. I wasn’t suppose to call her by a certain pet name because her mean older brother had called her that. I couldn’t cook with this vegetable because she was forced to eat it as a child and now despised it. Something I said 15 years prior got brought up in an argument.
It can be endearing in a cute way, a little quirky element in the relationship. But it also can lead to having nothing but those negative attachments. If you want to be free to experience the positive, you can’t have your memory bank filled up with only negatives.
Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily
Quote is a Persian proverb
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| Persian empire around 500 BCE under the reign of King Darius |