Questions Arise
I went looking under ‘women judging women’ to see what might be out in the world. These are some of the compelling images and articles I discovered.
The question I have after viewing and reading these blogs is this:
Where do you say your own judgment comes from, you or elsewhere?
What labels do you put on women’s bodies and style?
When is judgment good and proper and when is it not?
I am sure you will have more questions that come up. Chime in with your insights and opinions, your Napkin Kin want to know.
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If the image has a caption it links to a blog article.
From April on a Weight Watchers Blog
From Kim Shannon in the ‘Everyday Family’ blog
From Sarah of Rainbow Reverie (she does not agree with this photo’s message)
From Linda Franklin of The Real Cougar Woman
From Ann of the ‘Imperfect Woman’
From Jessica Wakeman of The Frisky
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What do you think?
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I have spent my whole life self-conscious about the way I look. It started at a very early age for me. Probably around age 4 or 5. Something passed down through the family. Freedom from dismorphic image didn’t come to me until my 40’s. But I was always aware of it, so much that I purposely tried to not put an emphasis on how my own children looked and more about who they were as “people”. Much to my dismay, I have one out of 3 children, who have the same affliction. What I am trying to say is this problem that we have with image doesn’t always come first from society. Sometimes it is something that is wrong in your brain and is reinforced by society. Girls I think, will always be a target for this kind of thinking because of the importance placed on beauty and what we find beautiful. Marilyn may have been a full figured gal, or more than most, but she still had a chemical imbalance, which lets face it, is the culprit to most stinkin thinkin. Being beautiful is an inside job. There is beauty in one who truly knows in their soul who they are and why they are here on the earth. Beauty is so subjective. My girls are beautiful not only on the outside, but most importantly because they are strong women, not afraid to speak the truth. So much comfort comes from knowing the truth and unfortunately so many years were wasted with worry over wind in my hair, fat on my belly, the wrong cloths, the wrong shoes,the wrong hair color, etc…and the list goes on and on.
Wow Gina, what a powerful history and insight you have about it. Thank you for commenting. I am so appreciative of scientific progress leading us to understand about how our brains and bodies work. Not to excuse who we are, what we think or how we act, but to help us understand it accurately. The more accurate we are in understanding what drives us the better we will be able to turn ‘stinkin thinkin’ into something much more positive and helpful.
My wife and I had a discussion recently about two people we both used to know long ago. One was sort of a child-like buffoon at times, not that responsible. The other was much more responsible and adult in many ways. But one was loved and deeply cared for, in spite of his issues. The other not nearly as much. The difference? The simple child-like man was mostly kind, loving and gentle. The other man was too often mean, spiteful and hurtful. In other words, kindless and a good heart will cover a multitude of ‘sins’.