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Signals
When I was in college I had a female friend who I was hoping might want a romantic relationship with me. I pursued, she gave a few positive signals, then some negative ones, then some neutral ones, then some hesitations, then some positive, then some none, then some no, then some yes, then some…I was gone by then.
It was just too much. I didn’t know where I stood. I didn’t know if she was or was not interested. I didn’t know anything solid. And I couldn’t keep going knowing nothing so I lost interest and eventually went on my way somewhere else with someone else.
Game Playing
It seemed to me that it was a game she enjoyed playing. She liked being pursued, that was the adrenaline rush. Having an actual relationship? Not so much. Of course this can happen with men as well as women, so it’s not only a one way street. Men can get their adrenaline rush from their pursuing game but not the relationship game.
Have you experienced this? What do you think it is it all about?
Drawing and commentary © 2016 Marty Coleman | napkindad.com
Quote by Mae West, 1893 – 1980, American Entertainer
I’m 61 and still not married, so I’ve just decided I’ve been missing the marriage gene. It also runs in my family trees. I mean, I’ve thought about it ad nauseum, the reasons why I’m still single, because I really do love company. But it also could be my auto-immune health stuff that somehow I’ve known all along instinctively would have/could have dragged a mate (and children) down. So, even though I crave the friendship, I must be realistic. Sad. And that’s my push/pull story. Lots of possible reasons out there you may have never even thought of!
Yes Kristen, you are right. There are a million reasons why, it’s not always game playing at a crass, selfish level. But even if the intent isn’t game playing, it still is often seen that way by the person at the other end of it. It can still be confusing.