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Periscoping Sara
I Periscoped with a TV Newsperson the other day (see the end of the post for an explanation of Periscope).
She was in a cab after a long day of work and play. Her name is Sara Haines and she is a Lifestyle and Pop News Anchor for Good Morning America on ABC. It’s a good fit for her because she is chirpy, funny and a energized ball of laughs and smiles. She had been Periscoping during commercials and then later at a party. But now she was done for the day and on her way home.
Understanding Kim
I and others were watching her now in a more relaxed, contemplative mood, reflecting on things based on questions we were asking. Someone asked her if she liked the Kardashians. The person asking may have been expecting a typical, ‘I hate them, they are terrible’ type of response, I don’t know. But that is not what they got. Sara said she is intrigued and fascinated by them, especially Kim Kardashian. She said she tries to imagine what she would do if she was raised like her, looked like her, lived her life, had her money. What choices would she make and how different would they be from the choices Kim does makes? In other words, she doesn’t judge or shame Kim, she empathizes with her. And that means she can simply enjoy her for who she is and try to understand her.
Empathy Covers Shame
So far the 21st century is the century of public shaming and judgment. But what Sara shows in her attitude is that happiness and joy comes from empathy and understanding of others, not judgment and shaming. It’s a lesson we all need to learn again and again, that when we are tempted to judge, especially in the public arena when we truly don’t know the person, it’s best to step back and try to empathize, to understand what it is they are feeling and reacting to in life. That is when we will grow and learn.
Hope for Humanity
I like Sara from what I seen of her on TV, but she went to the top of my ‘I have hope for humanity’ list when I was able to hear her talk about her way of seeing the world and the people in it. She’s also now at the top of my ‘What TV person would you most want to have lunch with’ list. I think the conversation would be fantastic.
I have written a second blog post about Sara and Kim. You can find it here: Sara Haines, Kim Kardashian and the Power of Love
Here are my other posts on shame –
Periscope – Periscope is a live video broadcast with texting interaction app from Twitter. It’s available on the iOS and will be available on Android soon.
Drawing and commentary © 2015 Marty Coleman
Quote by Brene Brown, 1965 – not dead yet, American writer and scholar
You are absolutely right. I tried to delete these comments, but couldn’t find a way. I would appreciate it if you deleted them or tell me how I can delete them.
You obviously went to the wrong Jo Rose. (I am the great gavonne) I wasn’t looking for any credit, just a thank you was all I wanted. After all I did for her-I did an extensive article about her on my blog (Gavonnews, since erased) & I went to Times Square on her 1st day on the air at ABC & held up a big sign that said ‘GOOD LUCK SARA’. And she didn’t even have the decency to come outside & take a photo with me. All that fake sincerity is just an act. She couldn’t care less about her fans. Everything she does is to make her brand more noticeable in order to get her own show, which will never happen because she doesn’t have the brains or heart to be really appealing, like, say, a Kelly Ripa. The question I ask you is: Why are you kissing this phony’s ass? Could it be you are trying to boost yourself? Nobody ever heard of your nonsense blog & nobody cares.
Jo, sounds like you have quite a chip on your shoulder, too bad about that.
You certainly are right about my blog though, it’s small and not very noticeable. It might stay that way, it might not, who knows.
I have mixed motives (as do we all) in following Sara. My first motive was convenience. She showed up on my Periscope as live so I went and watched her. It was funny and made me follow her so I could watch her again. I then saw her on a cab ride home and thought she was thoughtful, kind and insightful, as I mentioned. That conversation made me think about her when I drew and wrote my small little blog post.
My motivation at that point was mixed as well, one I hoped she would see and read the post and I hoped it would make her feel good about her Periscoping so far. It turned out it did. Second, I hoped that maybe her liking the post would boost my numbers slightly. It did slightly and that was nice as well. Three, I hoped my encouragement to her would give her a bit of a lift for her to continue to show that insightful side of her in her Periscoping, which it did.
Yep, so like you said, trying to boost myself a bit and like you didn’t say, trying to boost her even more. Sort of like how life is, right?
My experience with her so far shows her to be a pretty cool and interesting woman, insightful and kind, someone I hope does well. My experience with you so far is that you are small minded, mean spirited and vengeful. I hope things will change for you inside, it will make your life much better.
You are right, I have my issues with anger, but your opinion of Mrs. Shifty is based on limited viewing of her Periscope. Of course you see what she wants you to see, in order to think about her what she wants you to think. You don’t seem to understand how you are being manipulated by her in order to give her more publicity & raise up her brand. I have had extensive correspondence with her & I know her better than anyone, with the possible exception of the cowardice putz she married. You can pass this on to her if she doesn’t read it already(image is everything to her), she needs to contact me so we can resolve this issue. I will confront her face to face no matter how long it takes. Continuing to alienate me is not going to be good for anyone. Peace, love, understanding, & forgiveness is what is needed here. I am willing to apologize & stop the hate if she is. We all have to live on this planet together, why not do it as friends instead of enemies?
What I don’t get is why you are saying ‘peace, love, understanding and forgiveness’ when you are giving none of those things to her. If you want to stop hating her, then stop hating her. Why are you waiting for someone else before you become who you want to become. You want to be less hateful and angry? Then be forgiving and loving. Waiting for someone else to do that first is basically giving them control over your life since you are deciding your life by their actions. Why do that?
I don’t like you saying you will confront her face to face no matter what. It sounds like you are under the delusion that doing that will solve your problem, that it will end with her understanding your point of view and become friends with you. I have a feeling based on what you said so far, that isn’t going to happen. She has an opinion of you, valid or not, I have no idea. That opinion seems to be she wants nothing to do with you. And you confronting her is not going to change that.
It’s just like having someone break up with you. They say they don’t want to see you anymore, then they aren’t very likely to be open to seeing you, much less having you force some sort of resolution to your liking on them. They will back away even further and it will give them that much more evidence that you are someone they want to stay away from.
The real solution is for you to move on. Be the forgiving and loving person you say you want to be and put that in your heart and mind, regardless of who the other person is or how they react to you or others.
I happen to like the Sara I have seen so far. If at some future date I find that impression to not be true, then so be it. I doubt that will happen but people are complex creatures and I am ok with that.
I wish you well and hope you do learn more about how to escape your anger and move towards love.
I might suggest one of the first steps is to not call people names, even if you feel it. Arguing to someone for your point of view is diminished by calling a third person they happen to like (or the husband of that third person) terrible things (even if you believe it) get’s no one on your side. I doubt I would be on your side in this anyway, but the name calling certainly inclines me to side with Sara and her husband no matter what qualities your argument may have.
Sara may seem nice on TV & on her phony Periscopes, but she can also be very mean & inconsiderate. I was friends with her on facebook & was her biggest supporter. I gave her an idea for a story she was doing & not only did she not give me credit, she did not even thank me. When I complained to her & her slimebag corporate lawyer husband she called the cops & claimed I was “harassing” her. She is a cut-throat money hungry attention whore who will do anything to climb higher on the ladder of success. One day the public will find out what she is really like & her career will be over. The sooner the better.
I see nothing that gives me reason to believe you. I do also see a few reasons to not believe you. Why did you give her the story idea, so you would get credit? That’s not the best reason in the world. Wasn’t it so the story would get out, credit or not? Also, how did you want her to give you credit? On air? How many people on TV stop to give credit to their sources? They don’t except in very rare cases.
It sounds to me as if YOU were the one trying to use her as a stepping stone to something else.
In the meanwhile you lost all credibility when you name call her and her husband. Then I went to your FB site and you have no info, one pic (a bad one) and two friends, one of whom is still Sara. So, explain that to me.