I like this drawing, it’s indicative of something important for girls (and women who didn’t learn it when they were girls) to remember. In general, men don’t have the guilt and embarrassment gene at the same level women do.
We have the gene, some more than others, but it’s my experience at least that women have it in a much larger dosage. So, girls, beware when you enter into a situation such as is illustrated above. The guy might be kind, nice, thoughtful, understanding, etc. But don’t expect him to feel or understand the level of embarrassment or guilt you feel in having done something you think is wrong. He might think it was wrong as well, but it is unlikely he is going to feel as strongly about it as you do.
Have you ever witnessed (or maybe have been in the midst of it yourself) someone who is so desperate for something you just know it is going to slip between their fingers. It might be a relationship, a job, money, or fame. But whatever it is, you almost get the feeling there is a cruel joke being played. The person who wants it the most is not going to get it.
I watched an episode of the TV show Survivor last night. And in the episode there was one man who was seeking to be made the leader. He kept asking for a chance to be leader. He begged to be made leader. And the more he begged, the more people saw him as being too desperate and not likely to be a good leader. The very act of communicating his desire so fervently was the deciding factor in the other people not wanting to help fulfill that desire. He was not made leader. He was voted off the island instead.
Whether you become famous or not, in the end you will still be living with yourself day to day, every day. If you aren’t happy with that person, then being known world-wide is not going to help you. Being confident inside yourself of your own worth and ability is the most secure way to deal with whatever happens, fame or obscurity.
Drawing by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily
Quote by John Keats, 1795-1821, English Romantic poet
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