by Marty Coleman | Nov 23, 2011 | Anonymous, Gratitude - 2010/2011, Thanksgiving |
Some things I escaped, for which I am grateful.
- Losing an Eye – 1955/1965 – Numerous cuts around my eyes as a kid. My nickname in my family was ‘Stitch’.
- War/Combat – 1972/73 – Was just young enough to not be drafted during the Vietnam war.
- Injury – 1972 – Private plane landing. Tire went flat on landing, but not before we had slowed down considerably.
- Rape/Death – 1973 – Got in the car of a stranger during a severe rainstorm at LaGuardia Airport. Talked my way out of it successfully.
- Death – 1973 boat explosion – Severely burned but survived.
- Injury/Death – 1989 Loma Prieta/World Series Earthquake – Very close to the epicenter in Santa Cruz county.
- Injury/Death/Arrest – 1993 – driving while intoxicated – Stopped drinking in May of that year.
- Nasty Divorce – 2000 – First wife Kathy and I had an amicable divorce and remain good friends and supporters.
What have you escaped for which you are grateful?
Drawing and List by Marty Coleman, Publisher of The Napkin Dad Daily
Quote by Anonymous
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by Marty Coleman | Nov 21, 2011 | Marty Coleman |
As many of you know, I coach a running group. The group is geared to complete a 1/4 marathon (6.55 miles) after a 12 week training season. But this season we added on something extra. We tacked on 5 extra weeks and took them from running the 1/4 marathon to a 15k to a 1/2 marathon yesterday.
By the time the 1/2 marathon race started they were on their own; no coaches telling them what pace to run, when to stop for water, what to wear, how to stretch, or what to eat. It was all on them, alone, by themselves to conquer fear, trepidation, worry, excitement, unexpected aspects they couldn’t control (internal and external) and to fight their way through it. And they all did it. I am very proud of them, everyone of them.
I tell them as often as I can that I am proud of them. When I first started saying ‘I am proud of you’ I had feelings that it was premature, as if I shouldn’t be saying it because I don’t know them well enough. After all, isn’t that reserved for a parent to tell a child or a spouse to tell their partner?
But I soon realized that it was my act of saying it, and believing it, that made me care about them enough for it to be true. I thought about what it was I was proud of in them. What had they overcome? What demons or negativity had they conquered? What achievement, seemingly out of reach, did they realize? What blossoming had I seen?
Tell me about how you express your pride in others. Do you say it often? What stops you if you don’t. How do you feel when you get, or do not get, that affirming pride statement from someone?
Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily
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by Marty Coleman | Nov 18, 2011 | E. W. Howe |
A man in trouble walks to town to seek advise from the local wise sage. He tells the wise sage that he is worried about dying, about leaving things undone in life. The wise sage tells him to do the best he can, to believe in himself, to put a plan together and try to take action. The man leaves the wise sage thinking that is what he is going to do. He arrives home and promptly forgets the advice.
That evening he goes out for a walk before bed. As he walks he is suddenly paralyzed with fear when a snake jumps out and almost bites him. He recognizes it as one of the most poisonous snakes in his part of the country. Just as it looks like it is about to strike again, an owl swoops down and grabs it.
The man goes home, sits down at his desk and writes out his plan. The next morning he has the first 5 items on the list crossed off before dawn.
Drawing and story by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily
Quote by E. W. Howe, 1853-1937, American novelist and editor
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by Marty Coleman | Nov 17, 2011 | Anonymous |
I coach a running group here in Tulsa. Many of these runners are running in their first half marathon this coming weekend. They raced 6.55 miles 5 weeks ago, 9.3 miles 3 weeks ago and Sunday they race 13.1 miles.
Six months ago most of them had not run a mile, much less 13. They started training for a 5k with runs that lasted 1 minute followed by 3 minutes of walking. It wore them out. They had little confidence they could do it but they tried anyway. And they did it. And they have continued to do it. That is confidence based on training and experience. It is a well grounded confidence that they have and that I have for them.
They are trained to have multiple goals. They have their optimal goal; their best case scenario. They have the goal they can adapt to; the goal that says everything is not optimal and I am going to adapt WITHOUT judging myself. Then they have the worst case goal; the goal that says nothing at all is going as it is suppose to and I am just going to finish this damn race no matter what. They don’t lose their confidence, they adapt their confidence.
So, what is the difference between true confidence and false confidence? After all, no one can see the future so how can we be confident about anything, whether true or false, right? True confidence is based on training and experience and is willing to adapt. False confidence is based on a wishful desire and is unwilling to adapt.
Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily.
Quote by Anonymous.
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by Marty Coleman | Nov 15, 2011 | Henry Ward Beecher |
It seems to me that one mistake parents make is being as obstinate as their children. They need to be smarter than their children, more sophisticated and more subtle in how they wage, and win, their battles. Calm perseverence and intelligent persuasion vs obstinacy will beat obstinacy vs obstinacy any day.
And you have to allow that sometimes you will lose the battle with your child, and that is ok. They need victories too, you know. The main thing is, no matter the fight, no matter the technique, never let them go for long believing you are against them. You always want to keep in mind that you are on their side, that you are their champion in life and you want them to know that. It’s not an easy position to carve out consistently but over the course of a life it can be done.
Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily
Quote by Henry Ward Beecher, 1813-1887, American abolitionist and Congregational clergy
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by Marty Coleman | Nov 14, 2011 | William Safire, Writing Lessons - 2011/12 |
When my daughters were young they started a running joke with me. It was because of my tendency to exaggerate in my story telling or explanations. For example, I might be explaining something about sports and say, ‘Joe Blow was the GREATEST catcher who ever lived.’ or if I was talking about history I would say, ‘General YadaYada was the MOST brilliant war tactician ever!’ They started expecting my superlatives and would crack up or roll their eyes when they came. My eldest, Rebekah, was adamant that I see the movie ‘The Big Fish’ when it came out because it was about a father who was a giant story teller, exaggerating the stories to absurd lengths. Now, of course, I NEVER did that. But she thought it would be fun for me to see the movie anyway.. uh huh.
All that is pretty much in good fun – no harm, no foul. There is value in clarifying and refining an experience in story telling so it has more power. But going farther than that, as we have seen in recent years with reporters exaggerating events or authors exaggerating their memoirs, can lead to a real lack of trust and believability on the part of the audience, not to mention a career destruction.
So, crystalize it so it sparkles but don’t forget the story plainly told still needs to be able to grab the reader’s attention. Move too far away from that in your story line and word crafting and you might lose the essence of what makes your story great in the first place.
Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily
Quote by William Safire, 1929-2009, American writer, columnist and speechwriter
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by Marty Coleman | Nov 11, 2011 | Anonymous |
I love this quote. Think about it. In truth many, if not most, of our blessings and our woes stem from who we have our main relationship with. I know in my life my wife puts up with a lot she wouldn’t have to if she hadn’t married me. Of course she wouldn’t get my charm and good looks but it still can be a pain for her, even with that fantastic benefit. haha.
So, this is a ode to my wife, Linda. She has been a wonderful companion for the past 8 years, 5 of them since we were married on 11/11/06 at 11am. I appreciate and love her for all she has done for me and with me and I hope I have given the same blessings back to her.
Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily
Quote by Anonymous
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by Marty Coleman | Nov 9, 2011 | Samuel Butler |
I am still on the road, but headed to the airport soon to make my way back to Tulsa. I was able to do a photoshoot on the beach on Coronado Island with an old friend and her husband yesterday. It got me thinking about friendship.
When my kids left the house for school every day my recurring farewell was, ‘Make good friends and keep good friends.’ One of my favorite things in the world is having old friends. My second favorite thing is making new ones knowing that if I treat them right and pay attention to them when I can, they will soon become old friends as well. That might take years, it might take a few days, like it did with some of the people I met at the recent BlogWorld conference I attended.
I look forward to many of them becoming old friends.
Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily
Quote by Samuel Butler, 1835-1902, English author
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by Marty Coleman | Nov 8, 2011 | Quote Authors, San Diego, Travel, Yogi Berra |
I am finally back to the napkins! I took some time off to speak at and attend the BlogWorld LA conference for the first time. Then I headed south to San Diego to visit my father and sister. I am there now, finally with some time to draw.
Travel is much like a life education vs. a formal education. It’s important to never confuse the two. With a formal education and a regimented, organized travel experience, let’s say for business, you need to be sure of what it is you hope to accomplish and what you want to learn. It’s good to have it planned.
But in your life education and in all of your travels, business or not, there is another layer that exists, and that is the layer of not knowing why you are going somewhere or learning something. I don’t mean you have no idea at all, I mean you have to allow that you CAN’T know it all in advance. Your deepest experiences and lessons come to you without your prior knowledge that they are about to arrive. It is those things we couldn’t have anticipated that resonate the deepest.
So, don’t freak out if you don’t know every step of the journey ahead, whether in your education or your travel, If you did, you wouldn’t learn much.
Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily.
Quote by Yogi Berra, 1925-not dead yet, New York Yankee baseball player and manager
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by Marty Coleman | Nov 2, 2011 | Blog World LA, Will Rogers |
I am taking off for Los Angeles to speak for the first time at Blog World, a humongous conference on…blogging. I am speaking at 4pm on Friday. My topic title is: The Napkin Dad Explains: Six Stop Signs on Creativity Road. Wish me luck!
I was raised in California. First on the beach in Del Mar, near San Diego, then up in Los Angeles. I love LA. The conference will be downtown and we lived at the beach but we used to drive in a number of times a week so my sister and I could swim with our swim team at the LA Athletic Club. Bad pollution made breathing hard but besides that I loved it.
I remember the daughter of a movie star was in our swim team, she had red hair I think and I had a crush on her. The Rolling Stones had a song out back then called ‘Pretty Ballerina’ maybe? Anyway, they had some song that was the song I attached to her. I still think of her whenever I hear that song.
I now live in Oklahoma, thus I can make fun of both states in my drawing today. I love Oklahoma. I haven’t met a daughter of a movie star here, that I know of. But I love it nonetheless.
If you are going to Blog World, make sure to find me and say hi. And of course, COME TO MY PRESENTATION!
Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily
Quote by Will Rogers, 1879-1935, American humorist and movie star from OKLAHOMA.
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