Clamor – Be Silent! #3
Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily Quote by Rabindranath Tagore, 1861-1941, Bangladeshi poet and writer
Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily Quote by Rabindranath Tagore, 1861-1941, Bangladeshi poet and writer
Day 3 in my week of beauty. Collect them all, win prizes!
There is something compelling about beauty. We want to possess it.
To a child, the beauty might be a flower, but it could just as easily be a
frog or a stone. It is filled with wonder and we want it. We want to touch
it and hold it and examine it and play with it. We want it to indulge in
it. The hardest thing to do is to let beauty just be. To enjoy the object,
person, event, whatever it is and not try to hold on to it, to capture it.
I know, I should talk. I am an artist and photographer. I spend my time
thinking about how to capture it. But I also have learned to let it pass by.
I have realized that there is an endless supply of beauty. I will never be
without it, I will never be unable to see it. I know from past experience I
have barely had a day gone by without seeing beauty. It might be the dress
my wife wears as she goes to work, it might be the way my cat is curled up
in the sun, it might be the incredible spiky beauty of the weed I haven’t
pulled in the backyard.
Try indulging in beauty today without trying to capture it. Let it walk by and
respond by just smiling and saying I am happy there is beauty in the world
and I got to experience it today.
“By plucking her petals you do not gather the beauty of the flower.” – Rabindranath Tagore, 1861-1941, Indian Author, Nobel Prize in Literature 1913.
“A mind all logic is like a knife all blade. It makes the hand bleed that uses it.” – Rabindranath Tagore
I know this one is a bit creepy but the quote had knives and blood in it, what was I
going to do? But there is a truth here. The truth is that logic is a step-by-step
process of thinking through a problem, not a way of life or the exclusive method for
interpersonal relationships.
You ever come across that person who gets irate if you don’t comprehend
and go along with his or her logic? I used to be that person. I am still that person
some times. I thought I was right. I had my reasons. They were good reasons.
My arguments made sense. But the other person didn’t agree, didn’t see, didn’t
understand, or plain didn’t care. grrrrr.
It wasn’t until I went through marital counseling with my now unwife that I realized
the difference between trying to win an argument and trying to win someone over.
I had always just been thinking the logic of the argument was enough. After
the counseling I realized that the argument wasn’t what was important, my wife
was who was important.
Just as a side note, it was ironic that the best, most real communication we had
as a couple was in the final year of our marriage. It didn’t save our marriage
but it did teach us both great lessons on how to communicate and care for the
feelings and thoughts of another person. I am better for it and am grateful I went
through it, even though the cost was high.
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