Building Character – Failure Week #5
I am going to be a speaker at BlogWorld LA! The dates are November 3-5, 2011. I am not sure of my slot yet, but I will let you know. If you are going to be there you can bet I would love to have you at my presentation and meet you! I will give more information as I know it myself.
Did I fail to mention how much I love being The Napkin Dad? That’s probably because it’s day #5 of Failure Week.
All this week I have been reading ‘failure’ quotes. I read one Monday and all week it’s been bugging me. It is the opposite of the what I wrote above – here it is: “Success builds character, failure reveals it.”
It bugs me because I think it’s completely backwards. In my experience it is failure that builds character, not success. Here is why I think this: What do you learn from success? That you are great, smart, funny, lucky, hard working, pretty, talented, savvy, better than others? Does knowing any of those things build your character? Hard working is probably the only one of the bunch, right?
What do you learn from failure (or catastrophe)? That you can be wrong, dumb, unlucky, flawed? Yes, you can learn those things. But what else can you learn? That you are resilient, strong, persevering, diligent, humble, better than your circumstances, helpful, thoughtful, caring, selfless, patient, empathetic, intelligent? Yes, those as well.
And what is character made up of? Is it made up of ego, looks, talent and smarts? or is it made up of resilience, empathy, strength, humility, perseverance, love and patience?
I have had a LOT of failures and catastrophes in my life; schools I got kicked out of, a failed marriage, rejection in the art and academic world and physical disasters just to name a few. If I had not had those ‘failures’ and not gained the resulting character I now have, I would not be able to take the successes I have had in a good, positive and mature way (which I attempt to do).
Our successes reveal the character we’ve built during our failures.
Quote, drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily