by Marty Coleman | Oct 7, 2015 | Money Problems - 2015, Voltaire |
Your Mind Torn
When you are ‘torn up’ about something in life, what is it that really is torn? It’s your mind. For example, I have a friend who has fallen in love with a married man. Her mind and heart are torn. She thinks everything of this man and so she is willing to do everything for him, including risking destroying herself.
Your Focus is your Reality
What you focus on in life is what is real, even when it’s not. Spending your life focused on the existence of Bigfoot doesn’t make Bigfoot real. It makes your pursuit of him real.
Believing Untruth
Believing money will do everything for you in life doesn’t mean it’s true (it’s not). It means you will do everything (and anything) for money without regard for your own (and others) health, safety and well-being.
The questions you have to ask are:
- Why do I think it’s true even though it’s proven to be false?
- What do I gain from believing it?
Answer those and you are on your way to a more balanced way of thinking about money (or anything else for that matter).
Drawing and commentary © 2015 Marty Coleman | napkindad.com
Quote by Voltaire, 1694-1778, French writer, historian and philosopher
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by Marty Coleman | Oct 6, 2015 | Sketchbook History Tour, Travel Napkins |
Three times in the last week I have gone to a coffee shop and drawn. The first and second time led to pretty good drawings I thought. But the third time I struggled to get a good drawing.
I thought I would show you the drawings and explain some of the reasons why it went the way it did. Of course, there isn’t a reason for everything in art and creativity so I am not trying to explain it as if it’s a science experiment (where there is a reason for everything). But I think it can be helpful to show failures as well as successes.
The Stranger at Starbucks
I had to take my car in to have something looked at so took some of the waiting time and went to get coffee and breakfast. I was hoping to find someone interesting to draw and Periscope live as I did so. I went to Starbucks and as I walked in I noticed a woman sitting in the corner with her back to the window. She was at a small 2 person table and was talking to someone facing her. She had a nice brochure in front of her and seemed to be explaining something about a company or a sales opportunity.
First Attempt
The woman had a beautiful long face, eyes that were slightly turned up and a wide, expressive mouth. But in trying to capture those elements I exaggerated them. I then reduced her neck and shoulders in size as I tried to complete the drawing. The result was more of a caricature than a portrait. It’s not terrible, but it wasn’t what I wanted. I wanted to capture what I saw as a beautiful set of expressive lines and I don’t think I did that.
Second Attempt
This time I thought I would do the drawing in my sketchbook. I started the same way I started the first drawing, with a simple line. I was focused first on seeing and drawing the line that went from her forehead all the way down to her chin. Getting that to flow right was key to the rest of her face. I then went back up to her eye and worked on it’s shape and the line of her nose. By that time I already knew my initial line was off. My solution was to force myself out of that obsession with accuracy by changing my technique to a more gestural one. In other words I decided to draw fast and furious, going over a line multiple times as I went. It allowed me to correct the lines I didn’t like and move more spontaneously in the rest of the drawing.
However, even with a gesture drawing, if you start out with a fundamentally flawed construction, it can be hard to bring it back. And that is what I had done. By the time my initial work on her face was done I knew I had her eyes too high on her face and that their shape made them look vacant and amateurish. But I continued on thinking perhaps working with shading would fix the problem. It didn’t. I was able to do pretty well with her body this time around but it wasn’t going to matter if how I drew her face made her look like an alien, which it did. I worked it a bit longer before I decided there was only one more thing to try, and that was to lower and reshape the eyes. Unfortunately, I had already so overworked her eyes trying to save them that lowering them made them look even worse. I gave up at that point.
Third Attempt
I decided to try one more time on a napkin. I was determined to be spare and simple with my line and learn from what I just done. This time I started with her forehead line, then her eye, wanting to redeem myself after having drawn them so bad the first two times. I felt good about the first one, the one farthest from me and continued with her nose and jawline. At that point I felt I had a better start than the first two.
While her mouth is proportionally larger than average, in the first drawing I had made it too big. This time I waited until I saw her talk enough times to see how her lips looked and drew the four lines as fast as I could. Then I focused on getting the other eye right. After that I felt I had the bones of the drawing right and could move on to her body and hair with a loose and simple confidence.
This one is the best of the three, I have no doubt. The academic issues of proportion and shape are dealt with effectively and the expression allows for interpretation and imagination.
Success From Failure
So, I think I finished with a success. A minor success so far, but a success nonetheless. But I wouldn’t have achieved that success without the ability to walk away from a failure. Stopping something and saying it’s a failure is not failing in the ultimate sense. It’s simply admitting something is beyond repair, learning from it, and moving on to better things.
Drawing © 2015 Marty Coleman | napkindad.com
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by Marty Coleman | Oct 3, 2015 | Travel Napkins |
I had a Dr. appointment yesterday to look at my Achilles Tendon (it’s sore and I have a marathon coming up). After the appointment I went to Starbucks to hangout and draw. I saw this woman’s blonde hair shimmering in the sunlight as I walked in and found a table close enough so I could draw her as she studied.
I brought my sketchbook but decided to draw on a Starbucks napkin instead. If you look at the line drawing only version below you can see how brown the paper is. I usually shy away from coloring these napkins because of that but this time I thought using shades of gray to create a monotone image would be cool. But as I colored I started using colors that were bright. Next thing I know the drawing is colorful!
After I finished the line drawing I showed it to the woman. She seemed to be happy about it. I told her why I started drawing her (her hair) and she said she has only cut it once in her life, way back when she was in middle school. Even then it was still mid-chest so not really short. Her name is Brooklynne and it turns out she has won a few beauty pageants. I expect she will win a few more, as well as some academic scholarships. She was studying hard!
She wanted a picture of herself with the drawing and so I took one on her phone and another on mine.
Drawing © 2015 Marty Coleman | napkindad.com
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by Marty Coleman | Oct 2, 2015 | James Baldwin, Money Problems - 2015 |
This drawing is available, original or print. Email me at marty@napkindad.com to inquire.
Money or Sex
Is this about money or is it about sex? When I was drawing it live on Periscope the #napkinkin talked a lot more about what it says about sex than what it says about money. Maybe they just aren’t that different?
Drawing © 2015 Marty Coleman | napkindad.com
Quote by James Baldwin, 1924-1987, American author
You can watch the creation of the drawing and the guessing of the quote on the Periscope replay.
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by Marty Coleman | Oct 1, 2015 | Money Problems - 2015 |
Have you ever heard the quote, “Wherever you go, there you are.”? This quote is similar only having to do with money. In other words, you can have all the money in the world but it’s still you in control of it. And if you aren’t competent at controlling your money you will wreck it, surely as you will wreck a car.
This drawing (and the entire Money series) is available for purchase (original or print). Please contact me at Marty@napkindad.com if you are interested.
College of Money
When I was young we were a pretty wealthy family. Nice homes, cars, boats, vacations, even airplanes. But through a series of events, both personal and global, we had to downsize to a much more middle class existence. That included not being able to afford the college I was going to and me going out on my own. I regrouped and eventually went back to college on my own dime. That was the start of my college education in learning how to deal with money.
Masters of Money
I eventually got married and the family I married into was very different than my own. They were quite frugal and responsible with their money. They planned, invested, planned and invested some more. They budgeted, they prioritized, they delayed gratification. They judged the need vs the want. Marrying into that family was the graduate school of my education about how to deal with money.
Ph.D in Money
Later still I got divorced. We had just finally gotten out of debt from a move, a job change, and the raising of 3 kids. But the divorce had blown all that out of the water and I was back in debt. It took me many years to get back on track. That was my Ph.D. into how to deal with money.
Real Life in Money
How do you deal with money? Are you learning from the events of your life? Have you figured out what works and what doesn’t? Have you changed habits, ways of thinking, attitudes? What is the number one lesson you have learned? Let us know and maybe it will become a new drawing in the series!
Drawing and commentary © 2015 Marty Coleman | napkindad.com
Quote by Ayn Rand, 1905-1982, Russian-born American Novelist and Philosopher
You can see the creation of this drawing by watching a replay of my Periscope live video. Watching on Periscope allows you to interact with me live as I draw. It can be a lot of fun! If you would like to follow me on Periscope I am @thenapkindad.
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by Marty Coleman | Sep 30, 2015 | Money Problems - 2015 |
A Question
Is this true or false? We had a long discussion about it yesterday, trying to come up examples of money solving problems that could not be traced back to actually be a money problem. We covered health, relationships, poverty, and more. We couldn’t find one. What do you think? Can you find a problem that money solves that isn’t in the end, about money?
Original drawing or prints are available – Please contact me at marty@napkindad.com to find out more.
Drawing and commentary © 2015 Marty Coleman | napkindad.com
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by Marty Coleman | Sep 29, 2015 | Contest Winners |
I had a contest on Periscope this month (9/15) where I gave away a print of a napkin drawing. The winner was the one that sent in the best quote, as voted on by the #NapkinKin on Periscope. The quote below, “Be somebody who makes everybody feel like somebody” was the overwhelming favorite, having garnered 50% of the votes.
The winner was @freddyferret so I thought it would be fun to draw a ferret in the scene. Congrats to Freddy!
I will have another contest giveaway in October so if you aren’t on Periscope, get on it and follow me @thenapkindad!
Drawing and commentary © 2015 Marty Coleman | napkindad.com
Quote by Robby Novak (Kid President)
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by Marty Coleman | Sep 23, 2015 | Yogi Berra, Yogi Quote Mashup - 2015 |
Yogi the Great
Yogi Berra was one of the best baseball players ever. If he was mute and never said a word he would still be in the hall of fame many times over. Look up his statistics and there will be no doubt.
Yogi the Poet
But Yogi did talk. He said a lot of very funny, odd and surprisingly insightful things. Many are non sequiturs where the first part of the quote seems to make no sense with the second part of the quote. That gave me the idea of taking the quotes one step further, doing a mash up of two of his quotes and see what I can come up with.
Drawing and commentary © 2015 Marty Coleman | napkindad.com
Quotes by Yogi Berra, 1925-2015, American Baseball Player
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by Marty Coleman | Sep 23, 2015 | It's BEYOND Imagination!, Paul Gauguin |
Open Eyes
There is a funny thing that happens on Periscope, the live video broadcast app I used daily (@thenapkindad). It’s international and because of that men from all over the world, especially from Turkey and the Middle East, will come on the broadcasts of women and say ‘Open Bobs’. What they actually mean is ‘open boobs’ or ‘show me your boobs’. This usually results in the woman broadcasting and many of her viewers blocking the man. It never results in the woman showing her boobs. Periscope is actually really pretty good about not allowing nudity and sexually explicit broadcasts to stay on.
Open Eyes
When I am watching broadcasts I don’t say ‘open boobs’. It’s not that I would mind seeing boobs, some of my best friends on Periscope have very nice ones I am sure, but I am not there to see them. But sometimes when I watch scopes I do want to say ‘Open Eyes’. This most often happens when I am randomly browsing scopes. I will come across someone who is bored and has nothing to say. They expect those watching their broadcast to entertain them instead of the other way around. They tell you they don’t know what to scope about but will still be scoping, and usually boring their audience into oblivion while doing so. Then there is the type who basks in their horrible situation. They seem to brag about their dysfunction, making it into popular entertainment instead of fixing it.
Shut Eyes
What I sometimes feel these people need is to open their eyes. But how are they going to do that? I think for them to open their eyes they need to shut them. What they all seem to lack is creativity. The bored ones aren’t seeing a creative direction for their attention. The dysfunctional ones aren’t seeing a creative solution to their dysfunction. Their eyes have been open the entire time and it obviously hasn’t led to them finding solutions. So I say they need to Shut their eyes and imagine.
Uniform
What will shutting their eyes do? Hopefully they can strip off the constraints of ‘standard’ and ‘tradition’ and ‘expectations’ and allow creative and imaginative ideas and solutions to come up from their subconscious.
Making connections between disparate and incongruous things is at the heart of creativity and that usually can’t happen if there is a lot of ‘NO’ going on in one’s head. You would think that having your eyes open would allow you to see creative connections but often we see what has been designed by others who are looking for standardization and uniformity, not individual uniqueness. A quick look at the main commercial centers in the US will tell you that – big box franchise after big box franchise looking like you are in Anywhere, USA.
Unique
But shutting your eyes? Shutting your eyes allows you to dream. You can see the connections between things that don’t seem to belong together. You can allow your own unique mind to take precedence over the corporate mind that wants you to fit in to their box.
In order to imagine “I shut my eyes in order to see.”
Drawing and Commentary © Marty Coleman | Napkindad.com
Quote by Paul Gauguin, 1848-1903, French artist
I bought this painting by Gauguin on a postcard at the Metropolitan Museum of Art in New York City when I was a young teenager. I had it up on my wall wherever I lived or in my studio for close to 30 years. I probably still have it tucked away in a drawer or portfolio somewhere. I always loved the golden color of the main figure and the perfect tilt of the head of the woman at the side. The genius of Gauguin in having the women both look off in the way the do led me to wonder often what it was they were thinking about and looking at.
Paul Gauguin, Les Seins aux Fleurs Rouges, 1899, oil on canvas
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by Marty Coleman | Sep 20, 2015 | Henry David Thoreau, It's BEYOND Imagination! |
What I looked At
My piano was an old upright that had been in Kathy’s (my first wife) family for generations. She had left it with me after we divorced and she moved to California. Chelsea used it for years afterward at my house but when she moved into her first small apartment she got a smaller piano that would fit.
When Linda and I combined households upon our marriage a few years later, we doubled up on pianos. I contacted Kathy to see if she or anyone on her side of the family wanted it and I contacted Chelsea to see if she wanted it. No one wanted it.
Chelsea at the Piano
I researched what it would go for on the open market. Turns out it was very similar to many others trying to be sold and would be unlikely to get me much money.
Ready to be transformed
What I Saw
What I looked at was an old, unwanted piano. But what I saw was more than a piano. What I saw was a bookcase.
Starting the teardown
Take away the bulk of metal and strings and what was left was amazing wood.
Piano in Pieces
So I tore it apart, taking every single piece of wood and ditching the guts.
Almost finished – Just some sanding, staining and varnishing still to go.
I then made a bookshelf with the wood and gave it to Chelsea for her birthday.
What do you see when you look?
Drawing, writing, photos and bookshelf by Marty Coleman
Quote by Henry David Thoreau, 1817-1862, American author (among other things)
Periscope
You can see the drawing being created during a live video on Periscope.
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