by Marty Coleman | Sep 23, 2023 | Trust - 2009 |
I am republishing this from 14 years ago today. The quote is still true. I feel like I have progressed some since then. Not completely but I feel I am a more trustworthy person than I was in 2009. Why do I think that? Because I have tried to practiced it. That is the only way anyone gets better at anything. If you don’t practice it repeatedly, you’ll never become it.
Original text – I am basically preaching to myself this week. This isn’t because I am not a trusting person, I am. More than most probably. I assume the best of intentions, I assume people will do what they say they are going to do. It doesn’t always happen, but I would rather get burned once in a while and be a trusting person than always be safe but have to trust no one.
Why I do need to hear this stuff about trust is because I am always needing to work on being a more trustworthy person. I think I am better than some, not as good as others. But I am not as trustworthy as I would always like to be. It’s a process of doing the right thing, the good thing, the promised thing, again and again and again. It takes patience and discipline, knowing boundaries and constantly remembering what I have promised.
I suppose most of us struggle with it, at least I hope I am not alone with it, am I?
Drawing and commentary © Marty Coleman
“To be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved.” – George McDonald, 1824-1905, Scottish author and Christian minister.
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by Marty Coleman | Sep 25, 2009 | John Churton Collins, Trust - 2009 |
I know. This is a creepy image. Ok, so it won’t be a fan favorite. But the drawing fits the idea.
The reason this man shouldn’t be trusted is because he has no discernment. Someone who only says good things about people has not shown they can discern when there is a dangerous, bad person to avoid. I am not talking about dissing someone. I am talking about having a realistic view. If someone looks, walks and talks like a crazed ax murderer, then it is not a bad thing to say so and avoid the person. You aren’t being mean because you are using your mind to keep yourself and others safe.
Could the guy possibly have a nice side? Yea, he could like broadway musicals and long walks on the beach, be nice to dogs and caterpillars and send money to his mom back home every month. But if that is ALL you see of the guy, then you are purposely avoiding reality. He is still a dangerous person and should be avoided.
Obviously, I am talking about extreme circumstances here. The more likely scenario is an everyday friend or relative whose judgment you can’t trust because you haven’t heard anything negative from him or her.
Think of all the American Idol contestants who have to be told by the judges that they aren’t any good at singing, even if their mothers said they were. Their mothers weren’t trustworthy as judges of their ability, they only said good things. They thought they were encouraging, but in fact they were disabling them, making them unable to discern where they were in their singing progress.
Drawing and commentary © Marty Coleman
“Never trust a man who speaks well of everybody.” – John Churton Collins, 1848-1908, British Essayist and Critic
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by Marty Coleman | Sep 24, 2009 | Alfred Adler, Trust - 2009 |
All talk, no action.
Does she walk the walk, or just talk the talk?
Where’s the beef?
The cliche sayings about people who don’t back up their words with deeds can go on and on. Why is that?
Because words are easy.
Because words can fool people.
Because words don’t cost anything to say.
Because words can persuade the speaker that they are actually taking action.
Because deeds can be secret.
Because deeds can be explained away.
Because deeds are hard.
Because deeds are dangerous.
Because deeds seems harmless.
I don’t know about you, but I know the deck is stacked in favor of words in my world. I have to be deliberate about my deeds; make decisions, choices, right, wrong, truth, lie, open, closed. Words – all I have to do is say them.
That is why I need to continually practice seeing the words and the deeds bound together like a hiker’s gear. It is a long journey and I need only bring the words along that are important to support the journey, the deed.
Thus endeth the sermon to myself.
Drawing and commentary © Marty Coleman
“Trust only movement. Life happens at the level of events, not words. Trust movement.” – Alfred Adler, 1870-1937, Austrian Physician
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by Marty Coleman | Sep 22, 2009 | George MacDonald, Trust - 2009 |
Day two of ‘Trust’ week here at the Napkin Dad Daily. I am basically preaching to myself this week. This isn’t because I am not a trusting person, I am. More than most probably. I assume the best of intentions, I assume people will do what they say they are going to do. It doesn’t always happen, but I would rather get burned once in a while and be a trusting person than always be safe but have to trust no one.
Why I do need to hear this stuff about trust is because I am always needing to work on being a more trustworthy person. I think I am better than some, not as good as others. But I am not as trustworthy as I would always like to be. It’s a process of doing the right thing, the good thing, the promised thing, again and again and again. It takes patience and discipline, knowing boundaries and constantly remembering what I have promised.
I suppose most of us struggle with it, at least I hope I am not alone with it, am I?
Drawing and commentary © Marty Coleman
“To be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved.” – George McDonald, 1824-1905, Scottish author and Christian minister.
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by Marty Coleman | Sep 21, 2009 | Anonymous, Trust - 2009 |
Have issues with trust and expectations? Maybe this is part of the reason.
Drawing © Marty Coleman
“The key is to get to know people and trust them to be who they are. Instead we trust people to be who we want them to be and when they are not, we cry.” – Anonymous.
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